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Some moms of 'big' babies annoy me *edit*
by Anonymous
October 6, 2012 at 8:39 AM

I rarely say anything about DD's birth weight because I really couldn't care less, but moms who brag and go on and on about how big their baby was, how they had no drugs, etc bug me. I don't use my daughter's birth weight as a measure of good parenting and neither does anyone else. For the record, dd was 13lbs 5oz at birth and was born at 40+1. She was born by c-section after 28 hours of drug-free labor. She had some health issues, mostly shoulder dystocia and recieved oxygen. She was in the NICU for a few hours while they ran tests.

I don't brag and I don't get why anyone else does.

Again, this isn't a brag post, just one to state annoyance. My kids are more than just big babies. They are smart, funny, sweet and just good little people. I don't understand why some moms just focus on what they can push out of their vaginas or have cut out of them lol.

ETA: No diabetes, no gestational diabetes. I was not obese or overweight. I am 5'2 and weighed 122 when I got pregnant. I gained 27 lbs during the pregnancy. This child was my first. During the pregnancy my midwife did notice I was measuring large-for-dates and did many ultrasounds. She predicted DD to be about 10.5 lbs. My second child was large also, 12 lbs 8oz and born at 41+3, and by c-section because of the issues with DD's birth.

Both my babies were exclusively breastfed, the first until 14 months and the second until 16 months, so to the woman who stated that I MUST have had to give them formula because you can't sustain a baby on breastmilk who is that size, you are very incorrect, because I did with no problems whatsoever.

I do not know if there is a family history related to large babies; I'm adopted as is my mom. Both pregnancies physically exhausting, but I have never known anything different, so it might just be normal. However, I know I will not be having more children. I know the risks associated with macrosomia later in life for the babies. Both my kids are healthy and thriving, but they're still very large. DD is 6 years old, 47 inches tall and weighs 58 lbs. DS is 3 years old and 40 inches tall and weighs 43 lbs. I weigh 125 now and I don't know if I have a family history of diabetes, but we are very careful about what we eat just in case.

Thanks for all the replies. It's very interesting that there's so a wide array of opinions out there, and even those who believe that having a c-section is not giving birth. 

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/birth?s=t

birth

1.

an act or instance of being born: the day of his birth.
2.
the act or process of bearing or bringing forth offspring;childbirth parturition: a difficult birth.

If you don't believe that a c-section is giving birth, you are certainly incorrect. Last I checked, that's still bringing forth offspring; it's still the act of being born. Therefore, a c-section is not a vaginal or natural birth, but it's still giving birth :).

Replies

  • Ms.Pteranodon
    October 6, 2012 at 9:02 AM
    10lbs was really big for me.

    But I know what you mean.

    But still I'm seeing more and more healthy woman have huge babies! I think it's all the hormones that are found in our meats. Same reason girls are getting their periods earlier and kids are just generally bigger.

    Now my DS is at an average weight but is supposedly in the 99% of his height. Which means he should be taller than 99% of boys his age. But I'm finding that almosy every boy around us is in the 99%. KWIM?


    Quoting Anonymous:

    That's big but I was talking like 12+ lbs big. You know, REALLY big babies. :)



    Quoting Ms.Pteranodon:

    Mmm that's not always true either.





    I took care of myself throughout my pregnancy. I didn't have GD and I didn't gain a ton of weight i sctually lost like 10lbs during the first 6 montjs becuase I was so sick. I only gained 12lbs from starting weight and my DS was almost 10.












    Quoting Anonymous:

    This. Its not like you actually pushed that baby out so big or small makes no difference.
    People brag about bigger babies but big big babies aren't usually something to brag about since they probably got so big either by the mom not taking care of what she ate or diabetes, or things like that, so its not really an accomplishment since it can actually affect baby's health.








    Quoting RhondaVeggie:

    Bragging about a big baby generally involves actually giving birth to them so there isn't really a reason to brag with a c-section because size doesn't matter when the baby isn't passing through the vaginal canal.


  • JDmommyJD
    October 6, 2012 at 9:04 AM
    I don't get bragging about having a big baby..no way would i want a huge infant, lol.. My first three babies were perfect in size..the twins i wishhhh could have been bigger, but it is what it is...they're happy and healthy now, and that is all that matters..
  • 2inPink222
    October 6, 2012 at 9:04 AM

    I bet you WOULD be bragging if you had actually pushed 13lbs of baby out of your vag! I pushed a 9 pounder out and I feel damn proud :P

  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    October 6, 2012 at 9:07 AM
    My biggest was 8 lbs... She about tore me open literally lol. 13 lbs wow and oww!!!
  • BrittsJade
    October 6, 2012 at 9:07 AM
    I kinda get what you mean, It's nothing a mother did, it's just how their baby was born, so what, right?lol.
  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    October 6, 2012 at 9:07 AM

    eh people give me crap about how big my 5 month old is (21 pounds) and i could care less.  i go out of my way to not let people hold him because then all i hear is "he is SO heavy!  you should put him on a DIET!"....wtf.  the kid is in the 98th percentile for height and weight and i refuse to give him a water bottle and rice cereal just because people think my kid is huge.

  • the3Rs
    by the3Rs
    October 6, 2012 at 9:09 AM

    I think the point is that they're happy they had a big, healthy baby and they were proud to be able to carry and deliver it.  No harm there?  What?  Women aren't allowed to be proud anymore?  It's more of a brag on the mom than on the baby - but in any case - who cares?!

    Oh - and though you're apparently against 'bragging' of any kind, your post sounds all kinds of 'braggy'.

  • UgtaBkdnMe
    October 6, 2012 at 9:09 AM

    That's twice what mine were. I like little babies lol

  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    October 6, 2012 at 9:11 AM
    So you had preeclampsia? How much did you weigh when she was born?
  • karla85
    by karla85
    October 6, 2012 at 9:11 AM
    My dd was 9.3 lbs and I have never done that. Poor thing didn't even looked like a newborn, she was born and looked like a two month old lol

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