In the Bedroom

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Communicating my desire
by Anonymous
November 11 at 10:20 AM

How would you tell your SO the way you wish to be fucked?  Our sex life is ho hum, but i'm not even sure what I want.  We don't communicate about sex. We just do what we always do.  I guess what I'm asking is, what is your ideal scenario fuck session, what does it involve and how do you like it? 

Replies

  • jenn75
    by jenn75
    November 11 at 11:30 AM
    If you can’t talk to the person you’re fucking about fucking maybe you shouldn’t be.
  • LadyEmris
    November 11 at 11:32 AM
    Just tell him. If you’re not sure exactly what you want/need tell him you want to experiment.
  • Anonymous 1
    by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
    November 11 at 12:48 PM

    jenn75... I didn't join this site to be shamed.  I thought this was a site were other mothers could share and talk with other women, offer ideas and advice and bring women together.  I wasn't raised were sex openly discussed. My experience is minimal. 


  • Anonymous 2
    by Anonymous 2
    November 11 at 12:49 PM
    I just talk to him, like normal. I don't understand not being able to. Are you afraid of something? Is he not a good partner or do you have trouble talking to him in general?
  • Anonymous 3
    by Anonymous 3
    November 11 at 1:13 PM
    If talking makes you nervous for now maybe try texting? I'd send him a sexy lingerie pic of myself and then text something along the lines of "do you know what I wish you would do to me right now?" etc and then tell him.
  • jenn75
    by jenn75
    November 11 at 1:35 PM
    I didn’t mean to offend.


    Quoting Anonymous 1:

    jenn75... I didn't join this site to be shamed.  I thought this was a site were other mothers could share and talk with other women, offer ideas and advice and bring women together.  I wasn't raised were sex openly discussed. My experience is minimal. 

  • Anonymous 4
    by Anonymous 4
    November 11 at 10:31 PM

    I completely understand where you're coming from. My husband was super inexperienced when we got married. I was afraid to say anything because I didn't want him to feel inadequete or embarassed. So fast forward 18 years and it's still bad. I've tried to give obvious hints, like "OOOH, right there, keep doing that" and he turns into a 15 year old boy and gets so excited he moves on to the next thing. :-( It's awful. 


    I read a tip recently, you and SO write up little wishes on slips of paper and draw them out one at a time. Give that a try. He might want to throw some things in there, too, that he hasn't known how to talk about.  

  • Anonymous 5
    by Anonymous 5
    November 13 at 10:06 PM

    My dh had to open up about talking about his sexual desires.  It took us a few years into our marriage to the point where we'd just talk about sex like on a car ride or sitting on the couch at night.  If he is wanting to try new things he knows to just ask when we are having sex or give them a try and surpise me

  • Anonymous 6
    by Anonymous 6
    November 14 at 11:18 AM

    Watch some porn together and get some ideas.

  • smokeyjo
    November 16 at 5:15 PM
    Can’t help you with this one. We talk about what positions to do– when we did it last, who likes it more, who was on top last, etc., like we do when we are trying to decide which restaurant to eat at. 😂

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