Ok ladies, i have a question. Before I ask my question, I will give you a little background. I have been married for 5 years, and have two wonderful children. I love my husband dearly and our sex life is pretty good. Before we got married, I was pretty wild and crazy and had a VERY ACTIVE sex life. He knows about my past and like he said, the past is the past. Anyway, because of my being very active and never really having a true commitment until my marriage, i slept around. I have not cheated on my dh nor do i plan to, but I miss the sexual connection with other men. I loved having sex with different men. Is it wrong to miss my permiscuous ways of the past?
by AnonymousFebruary 22 at 3:36 PMNo, but it would benefit your marriage to let it go. Yeah, my crazy days were great but when we got married I had to let it go, put it behind me, and keep my focus on our family now. You aren't exactly doing anything wrong but pining for the past isn't exactly good for a marriage either.
by nelliesmommyFebruary 22 at 5:06 PM
I don't think so. As long as you don't cheat I see nothing wrong.
by kitty8199February 22 at 5:08 PMDon't think there's a problem missing it, as long as you don't act on it
February 22 at 5:40 PM
no it's normal and it happens.
Sooner for most later for some.
I had a past also and i constantly would miss the teasing and all the other men there were, but i settled for DH and just embrace your thoughts as a past that your reflecting on and don't feel ashamed about them. They will past and if you truly love your DH you don't really MISS the past your just looking back on it and mentally having a comparison to where you are now in life .:)
by AnonymousFebruary 22 at 5:54 PMI miss it every once in a while my husband probably does too lol. I don't think about it often and don't think its a big deal
February 22 at 6:04 PM
i wouldnt think about it too much. i did and thought about it so much because i got married so young i ended up filing for divorce. not for only the reason of wanting to get out and live, but it certainly was a factor that i wanted freedom. luckily i found someone who now who feels my need of wanting to get out and explore things by doing them with me and us being adventurous and getting crazy sometimes. (when the kids are off a mawmaws of course) why dont you have someone babysit the kids and have a night to do whatever you want.
February 22 at 9:28 PM
I would think that's normal.
by kaytee2109February 22 at 11:03 PM
I dont really think it is wrong as long as you dont act on it. Maybe you should talk to you dh about having a girlfriend so you can have that connection with someone else?? That might help.
by Cindy1221February 22 at 11:56 PMI don't think its wrong to miss a life you thought you were happy in. Memories will always be apart of our lives. You are doing nothing wrong.. Sometimes, its nice to float away and day dream... Doesn't hurt anyone..