no sex -no intimacy-I'm done

[hp2011]

Three years into our relationship and for the last 2 years we have sex (always missionary) on average once every 6 weeks.
there are no other forms of intimacy from communication to kissing.
I can't take it anymore. Yes I've tried to initiate, spice things up, communicate.... he shuts down.

[kitty8199]

Is something wrong?
Does he have ptsd or something

[hp2011]

Something is very wrong but he doesn't talk to me.

Quoting kitty8199:

Is something wrong?

Does he have ptsd or something

[coleysmama]

I could be thinking of someone else but hasn't this guy been a POS for years now?

[hp2011]

He has great qualities. he's a great provider, but a shitty partner.

Quoting coleysmama:

I could be thinking of someone else but hasn't this guy been a POS for years now?

[la_bella_vita]

 Sounds frustrating : ( I wish I had some advice

[kitty8199]

Do you push him for it? Maybe let it go and not mention it for a while?
I don't know what to tell you. I'm sorry

Quoting hp2011:

Something is very wrong but he doesn't talk to me.

Quoting kitty8199:

Is something wrong?


Does he have ptsd or something

[Anonymous]

Throw some Hott water on him and smack him around a lil..

[Andrewsmom70]

Has he seen a dr or counselor?

[Anonymous]

does he hav any affair?

[only2nknown]

Will he talk to anyone? Maybe a professional? I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I find it frustrating that my husband doesn't tell me things (something I plan on talking to him about soon).  The situation's pretty different, I know...but I do understand at least in part the fact of caring for someone and wanting to communicate and it not happening.

I was with a guy many years ago who I could go by a clock for three years. 5min foreplay, 30-45min 69, and 2min sex. Even with bringing up my issues the only "variety" I'd get is the sex position. I finally cut off the sexual aspect of our relationship all together as I'd grown to detest it. Ended up leaving him a couple months after that for various reasons.

I hope in your case things are able to be worked out, but on the other side...if you want a healthy sexual relationship, you shouldn't be made to suffer.

Quoting hp2011:

Something is very wrong but he doesn't talk to me.

Quoting kitty8199:

Is something wrong?

Does he have ptsd or something