In the Bedroom
Wants to... When I want to have sex it's always a "no" unless he's horny. Yesterday, for example he was all over me wanting to have sex but I wasn't in the mood but I still did it to please him. Today and the day before yesterday I asked him if he wanted to have sex because I was in the mood but I got turned down. I hate it!
Sorry just had to vent...
Sorry just had to vent...
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Does he say why not?
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Don't give in if you don't want it- pure and simple. My husband has a lower drive than me so I have to wait until he's in the mood- and there's little way to actually GET him in the mood. We agreed that since he has a really hard time just doing it when he's not in the mood that neither of us will. Mind you, I'm almost always in the mood or its really easy to get there lol. Just don't give in- it will only build resentment. -
He tries making up excuses like he's tired because he worked the night before but then again he worked the night before we had sex yesterday. I talk to him about how I feel it's unfair but he really doesn't care. It' just frustrating having to ask him and get turned down but when he wants it he doesn't even have to ask me because he just expects me to do it anyways... Sorry if I'm not making any sense :(
Quoting Fistandantalus:
Does he say why not?
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welcome to my life.. but I have a bob (battery operated boyfriend) and take care of it for my self.
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You're right... It is making me feel a little resentment :(
Quoting kameka:
Don't give in if you don't want it- pure and simple. My husband has a lower drive than me so I have to wait until he's in the mood- and there's little way to actually GET him in the mood. We agreed that since he has a really hard time just doing it when he's not in the mood that neither of us will. Mind you, I'm almost always in the mood or its really easy to get there lol. Just don't give in- it will only build resentment. -
I tried asking him if I could buy one but he doesn't want me to... he says he'd throw it away lol
Quoting Anonymous:
welcome to my life.. but I have a bob (battery operated boyfriend) and take care of it for my self.
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That's odd... It's the other way around for me in my relationship! I'm usually not in the mood! He gets mad because he's always in the mood! But, most men jump for the opportunity to have sex! No matter when it is! I have sex with him a lot because I feel bad saying no! It doesn't help because having sex just to please him does nothing for me and I'm like come on just get it over with! lol.... Talk to him about it! If you have sex with him to please him then he should do the same to compensate you!
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Is this a new thing or has it always been like this?
If it always has he may just have a lower drive or low testosterone. The low T he can get meds for but they can grow body hair and make his temper worse.
If its new he may be extra stressed or there may be an underlying problem that needs to get checked out.
Quoting Anonymous:
You're right... It is making me feel a little resentment :(
Quoting kameka:
Don't give in if you don't want it- pure and simple. My husband has a lower drive than me so I have to wait until he's in the mood- and there's little way to actually GET him in the mood. We agreed that since he has a really hard time just doing it when he's not in the mood that neither of us will. Mind you, I'm almost always in the mood or its really easy to get there lol. Just don't give in- it will only build resentment. -
New... It wasn't always like this til about a month or so...
Quoting kameka:
Is this a new thing or has it always been like this?
If it always has he may just have a lower drive or low testosterone. The low T he can get meds for but they can grow body hair and make his temper worse.
If its new he may be extra stressed or there may be an underlying problem that needs to get checked out.
Quoting Anonymous:
You're right... It is making me feel a little resentment :(
Quoting kameka:
Don't give in if you don't want it- pure and simple. My husband has a lower drive than me so I have to wait until he's in the mood- and there's little way to actually GET him in the mood. We agreed that since he has a really hard time just doing it when he's not in the mood that neither of us will. Mind you, I'm almost always in the mood or its really easy to get there lol. Just don't give in- it will only build resentment. -
Dude- don't ask lol. If I didn't have one I'd probably go crazy!
If you can sit him down and explain that either he needs to fulfill your desires or you need to buy one, maybe that would help.
Quoting Anonymous:
I tried asking him if I could buy one but he doesn't want me to... he says he'd throw it away lol
Quoting Anonymous:
welcome to my life.. but I have a bob (battery operated boyfriend) and take care of it for my self.