In the Bedroom
Well, I do initiate sometimes. But my turn on is when he is being forceful, even a little bit. Him wanting me is what gets me hot. So when he doesn't make any moves, I will go weeks without sex. I know he'd also like me to initiate, but it honestly feels like he's just lazy.
So I'm at a catch 22- either I don't initiate and I don't have sex, or I do, and it's just okay. The last time we had sex, he seriously acted like he was over it in the middle of all of it. Like, we were going at it for 20 minutes or so, and then I hopped back on, and he's like "again?" in a very irritating tone. It was such a turn off. But I wanted to finish, so I kept going. But it wasn't good at all. It was very blah. And I'd rather just get off myself when he's gone than have blah sex. It really sucks. I have dreams about good sex. lol
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I hate intiating
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I have to have a dominate man in bed, I hate initiating too.
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I understand completely! I hate initiating!! Its not that I'm lazy, I just only get turned on if he comes onto me. And it has to be forceful like he really wants it.
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I'm so glad I'm not the only one. These replies kinda made my morning in a weird way. lol
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Are you married?
Quoting Anonymous:
Well, I do initiate sometimes. But my turn on is when he is being forceful, even a little bit. Him wanting me is what gets me hot. So when he doesn't make any moves, I will go weeks without sex. I know he'd also like me to initiate, but it honestly feels like he's just lazy.
So I'm at a catch 22- either I don't initiate and I don't have sex, or I do, and it's just okay. The last time we had sex, he seriously acted like he was over it in the middle of all of it. Like, we were going at it for 20 minutes or so, and then I hopped back on, and he's like "again?" in a very irritating tone. It was such a turn off. But I wanted to finish, so I kept going. But it wasn't good at all. It was very blah. And I'd rather just get off myself when he's gone than have blah sex. It really sucks. I have dreams about good sex. lol
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yes. We've been together for 6 years, married for 3.
Quoting Anonymous:
Are you married?
Quoting Anonymous:
Well, I do initiate sometimes. But my turn on is when he is being forceful, even a little bit. Him wanting me is what gets me hot. So when he doesn't make any moves, I will go weeks without sex. I know he'd also like me to initiate, but it honestly feels like he's just lazy.
So I'm at a catch 22- either I don't initiate and I don't have sex, or I do, and it's just okay. The last time we had sex, he seriously acted like he was over it in the middle of all of it. Like, we were going at it for 20 minutes or so, and then I hopped back on, and he's like "again?" in a very irritating tone. It was such a turn off. But I wanted to finish, so I kept going. But it wasn't good at all. It was very blah. And I'd rather just get off myself when he's gone than have blah sex. It really sucks. I have dreams about good sex. lol
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i understand.. but i dont mind initiating thou.. i like it a bit more when he does but if im wanting it bad enough ill start it or if i wanna give him a bj i just go for it, i dont wait for him to ask for it
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I'm not allowed to initiate - it freaks him out. Unfortunately he only wants it once a week at most so I have to wait for him. It does not matter what I do - I just have to be patient. It's incredibly frustrating and we've even been to a sex therapist. Sigh.
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I dont mind initiating. I love it when my husband gets rough with it though. We both initiate like...everyday. And everytime is AMAZING -
Hmmm. When you go weeks without it, does he kiss or compliment you? Do you have kids?
Quoting Anonymous:
yes. We've been together for 6 years, married for 3.
Quoting Anonymous:
Are you married?
Quoting Anonymous:
Well, I do initiate sometimes. But my turn on is when he is being forceful, even a little bit. Him wanting me is what gets me hot. So when he doesn't make any moves, I will go weeks without sex. I know he'd also like me to initiate, but it honestly feels like he's just lazy.
So I'm at a catch 22- either I don't initiate and I don't have sex, or I do, and it's just okay. The last time we had sex, he seriously acted like he was over it in the middle of all of it. Like, we were going at it for 20 minutes or so, and then I hopped back on, and he's like "again?" in a very irritating tone. It was such a turn off. But I wanted to finish, so I kept going. But it wasn't good at all. It was very blah. And I'd rather just get off myself when he's gone than have blah sex. It really sucks. I have dreams about good sex. lol