As a former foster parent, the first thing you need to do is develop a really thick skin... Next: realize that foster and fost/adoptive kids are traumatized. Do not worry when they don't accomplish what your daughter does. Third: The role of foster parents is to care for and love the kids while reunification is trying to take place. If you don't think you can give up a child, don't do it. That's extremely hard to do. The rule of thumb is you're supposed to fost/adopt younger than the kids you already have to lessen the chances of your kid getting hurt. As for issues: there will be behavioral issues that will come out in a variety of ways depending on the abuse, neglect and/or trauma and the psyche of the kid. Read up on RAD; I'm going with the opinion that that's the worst. If you can handle that, you're good. If not, you may want to rethink fostering. Because the behaviors will play out all over; you'll get calls from school, neighbors, the milk man and the man on the moon!! It's great but it's also exhausting. Good luck!
March 31, 2017 at 4:40 PM
I don't think you should be terrified but you should definitely be concerned about issues that foster children can have. Be sure to read books and get educated about the issues you might face. I have friends who have fostered children and it hasn't been all bad but there have been difficult situations, for sure.
I think educating yourself (and talking to other foster parents) will help you deal with the worries and fears you have.