My nephew is getting married soon. The woman he is marrying comes from a very traditional family. Her family is paying for the entire wedding as per tradition.
My sister and bil are paying for the rehearsal dinner, and all costs associated with the rehearsal. The problem is, the future mil wants the rehearsal dinner at a specific place and wants to inivite all of her family to the rehearsal dinner.
Traditionally only members of the wedding party, their dates/partners and the bride and grooms parents attend the rehearsal dinner. The BIG event is supposed to be the wedding, but she insists on having all her family at the rehearsal dinner.
This is the one thing my sister has had any say in and she even agreed to use the place the future mil wanted. My sister draws the line at having everyone from the other side of the family attend the rehearsal dinner. Not only is it not necessary, it is very costly.
Do you think the future mil is being unreasonable? And should my sister have to pay all that extra money to accomodate all those people because the mil wants it so?
Very unreasonable, but I would tell MIL that if she wants all those extra people to come then she has to pay the difference, that your sister will only cover the costs of the wedding party not anyone else.