We've been together 5 but I've been a sahm for 14 months.. So it's still new to me depending on him. But he knew when we made the decision that it would be that way.. So I shouldn't feel guilty, and he wants to spoil me.. But there's something I just can't get go of yet!
I hardly ever spend money on myself, Its been four years and it still makes me feel bad..
by NikkiGross42April 17, 2013 at 3:47 PMGuess it doesnt help that he always has to mention that he is the only one who works. I would gladly work, and have actually applied in several places. No calls back and also day care would cost a ton for the boys.
I do feel weird about spending the house money on myself. Like you, my spouse tells me it is "our" money but it simply feels like I am spending it frivolously. What I decided to do was (at first,) do mystery shops. This accomplished 2 things. I was able to try new stuff and shop at places I didnt normally from time to time and second, It gave me a little extra cash every now and then. You wont make a lot of money doing it but it is fun. After that, I found out I could work from home. While it was a big adjustment, it allows me to make my own mone and still stay at home with the kids and stuff. Now, if money and bills are not the issue, then a little part time gig may make that feeling go away!