The reason I ask if its too harsh is bc he is not my son.. He's my step son. I just don't want to overstep!
April 8, 2013 at 7:09 PMI don't think that is too harsh.
I did a chore box for my sons 10 and 12.
You make a sign that says
You left it out and mom picked it up, now she has got you stuff and your out of luck.
To get it back you must do a chore, then it will be yours just like before.
Then you take an envelope and put in some age approptiate chores. The child picks one for each toy he wants to get out. So far it is working at helping my kids pick up after themselves.
Well, if you think that is harsh you wouldn't survive in my house! LOL!
If they leave things laying around the common rooms I "throw it away."
They have to earn it back.
Leave you ipod in my livingroom? Do the dishes.
Leave your jeans on the bathroom floor? Scrub the tub.
TO MY STANDARDS. That usually takes them about 3x as long as it takes me. They don't often leave things hanging around anymore. The 13 year old left clothing laying about and wouldn't bother to earn it back. Until he found he had shorts only to wear to school in a blizzard. He did some frantic cleaning that week.
by MollieEApril 9, 2013 at 2:43 AM
I used to put everything my kids refused to pick up into a box on the top of their closet. It stayed there a week to a month. If they didn't ask for the toys back then I knew they were finished playing with them and passed them along. It kept the floor clearer and helped keep the toy box under control.
Its amazing what they forget if its not there to pull out just to make a mess.
April 9, 2013 at 10:50 AM
The 10 y/o should definitely be picking up after himself. I like the chore box idea, making him earn back the toys he left laying around, and it's definitely not too harsh
by MySweetChildApril 9, 2013 at 11:34 AM
I don't think it is too harsh. My DD is 10 and I am really enforcing rules to get her more resposible. She already is a very responsible child with schoolwork, taking care of things, but I am trying to get her to clean up after herself.