Mind if I ask how you parent your little ones? Just curious
The other thing is that I don't like my kids around other kids when they are being spanked or shamed. It's just not an influence I want on my boys. So if a mother does those things around us, I'd probably not want to hang out with her. I may not think she is a "bad mom" but I still don't want the exposure.
The only reason I could see it having an effect at all is if they were going to be watching my son without me around. Then it would only matter as far as how they were going to be treating my son. If they were willing to do what I would do with him, then it still wouldn't matter.
I like people for who they are. Not how they parent a child.
Of course if they are abusive, then I don't think I would hang with them, but it would have to be obvious abuse, not just my perception of it.
I think it depends. If a mom lets their child(ren) do whatever they want and they are totally out of control I tend to just worry about my children non stop.
I had a girl I was really good friends with. But she was a horrible mom. And her kids were horrible. The last time we had a playdate at her house her toddler found a lighter and set the couch on fire. And her older ones kept cussing. We quit hanging out with kids after that. And not long after that all together.
I have actually met and personally befriended a mom here on cafemom , and even though she moved away we still are friends. I doesn't bother me too much if our parenting styles are different thats why I am here to meet new people and to learn from others.
Someones parenting doesn't come into play with me being friends with them unless they are very abusive to the children. The only way someones parenting would come into play really tough is if they were around my children.
I have some friends that are really great with kids, But I also have the friends from high school that have gotten their children taken away. Just because of their parenting wouldn't effect our friend ship. Yes I would try and help them better their lives.