I mean really ... how could I not miss them?Last
fall, I was offered a fantastic opportunity for a job. I was all set to
take it, until I found out that they didn’t want me to work remotely
for the two-month stint -- they wanted me on site in Boston.
I tossed the idea out the window, because Boston is 3,000ish miles
away from my San Diego home, and that’s one heck of a commute. Then the
planets aligned, my husband told me he could hold down the fort, and my
mom said she’d take care of the kids after school. Three days later, I
was kissing my babies goodbye and flying across the country.
I knew I’d miss my kids like crazy, but there were some things that I did not expect to miss about them. I mean, no one likes wiping
noses, right? Then I’d find myself turning a corner or waking up in the
middle of the night, and I’d be hit with a whole lot of I miss them so much right now!
These are the things that I did not expect to miss about my daughters but did anyway.
Middle of the Night Snuggles -- I don’t know exactly
when it started or how it happened, but for the past year or two, our
four-year-old daughter will more often than not wake up in the wee hours
and tear down the hallway and leap into bed with us until morning.
We’ve never been a co-sleeping family, and honestly, I kind of like my
space when I sleep, so I was surprised to wake up lonely in Boston
without her snuggly little body next to mine.
Cartoons -- I have no idea what’s going on with Phineas and Ferb, and that’s tragic. I guess I just don’t think to turn on something animated without the wee ones begging me to.
The Park -- Confession: Normally I hate the park.
It’s germy, they want you to play with them, and if you don’t play with
them you’re forced to make small talk with the other parents who you’re
inevitably going to end up not liking anyway, and the whole thing only
ends when someone falls and hurts themselves. Total nightmare. But I
found myself walking past the neighborhood parks a little slower in
Boston … Not a lot of things beat the joy of a kid on a swing.
Homework -- Haha. Just kidding. I didn’t miss that at all.
You know what I did miss though? The wonder and excitement evident
in my children when they learn something new or understand the world
around them a little bit better. And the satisfaction of victory that
trumps the frustration of teaching that comes along when something
finally clicks into place for them.
I knew I’d miss the hugs and kisses, and the love that my children show me every day -- what I didn’t expect was to miss just being a mom.
Overall, it was a great opportunity and I’m glad I did it. I’m
incredibly grateful to my amazing family and friends that made it
possible for me to go. I love you guys so much -- and now I love my
girls more than ever.
What ordinary things do you think you’d miss most if you were temporarily separated from your kids?