Mom to Mom
Okay some have may already read my other post about odd dreams, but there is another one that also happens.
I'll give the for real first. My DH was cheating on me. I got a call from someone who works at the same company. DH was sleeping with (let's call him G)'s g/f. G called me long distance and gave me ALL the details. G and I started e-mail each other. He even send me the card (very sexually explicit card that my DH had sent to his g/f). He claimed that he NEVER wanted to see her again. The g/f told G (who had purchased a RING for her, and she knew about it) that she was moving to GA where we are to be with my DH. DH told me the day after the phone call. He told me that she was 'the TRUE love of his life, and that they wanted to start a life together, ASAP!! They couldn't wait. I asked him if she was pregnant. He got very upset and told me that it was 'none of my damn business' but they wanted to start a family as soon as they can. (Yup, if there was a child, it would technically (by definition) be a bastard, as our divorce would not have been finalized by then, and the kid would have been born out of wedlock)
The plan was for my DH and the g/f to 'start a life together'. Ummmm you (my DH) are still married to me. So DH found a really nice apartment (I have reason to believe that he expected to live with HER) before he even told me that he was leaving. HE never asked for a divorce, I guess he expected the 'unmarry fairy' to just wave a wand and the marriage would disappear. I NEVER kicked him out. I told him that his actions were not conducive to a positive environment for our kids. He chose to leave. I went to a lawyer and filed, 6 weeks after he left. I had a morality clause put in the paper work. It stated that no unmarried unblood related opposite sex people could reside in the apartment as long as there were minor children present.
So one day I get an e-mail from the ex-b/f. Stating that my DH had to leave work to pick up HER from a doctor's office b/c she was 'too upset to drive home'. He did NOT know what doctor she went to see though.
Soon after that, DH claimed that 'they broke up, and that it was a mutual decision'. (I'm not buying it. She moved 6+ hours from family, a GREAT job and friends for the 'chance' that the 'love of her life' who is married to someone else is going to be available for marriage as soon as she gets here? I think that SHE moved on). The story change from, "love of my life" a few months later it became, "We're just friends, have always been just friends, YOU created this fantasy when you PUSHED me away" then it became "We were NEVER more than co-workers, I barely KNOW that person"
She lasted here less than 1/2 year. She moved back to where she came from. I have not heard from the ex-b/f and I really don't know if I expect to at all. In fact, I expect that they have reconciled. Something that I personally wouldn't support. The b/f and I had e-mailed several times in which he had stated that he'd NEVER take her back after what she had done, and I agreed with him. I also stated that I would never take my DH back. This was the 3rd time that he had cheated on me. I forgave him the first time (Christian thing to do), he took it as permission to continue along that road, and cheated more times, I found out about #2 & #3 (the one he said he planned on marrying) at the same time, if there were/ are more after that, I really don't care.
So here's my dream >> It's a flash back dream that takes place while all of this is happening. I have a dream that the g/f has an abortion, but (for real unlike one that I had for real after losing a baby) she chose to have this done. DH goes to pick her up at the doctor's b/c she's so upset. But she tells him that 'she lost the baby', she acts like it was unexpected. And some how, it's my fault. That the stress that I created led to this happening. Sometimes, my DH believes her, and blames me for this, that I ruined her life. There are other variations too. The basic premiss is, she chooses to have an abortion, to end a life. And somehow, it always comes back to my influence, or I made it happen.
I truly have NEVER met this woman, although DH has said that "she's really a GREAT person and I'm (sic) sure that you guys would be friends" , my answer to that has always been, "I would certainly NOT be friends with a home wrecking whore".
For real now that we are going through the divorce, DH acts like he's being more attentive to our kids, but he only does it when he has an audience. So people can say, "look what a wonderful provider he is". I sometimes think that he is trying to get back together, or to reconcile so that the slate will be wiped clean, so that his past indescretions can not be utilized against him in our divorce.
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I don't think dreams mean anything, and I don't think that you need to pay attention to them.
People usually have vivid dreams during periods of stress, kind of a no-brainer. And many bizarre dreams are part of the side effects of various medications.
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I think dreams are just dreams!
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I have no idea.
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I think it's just the stress of the situation. I had some really strange dreams after my mom left my father and was in the process of divorcing him.