Mom to Mom
Lately, I have been having REALLY ODD Dreams! I dream of regular things, but in the wrong area. For example, I'll have a dream of my son going to a local friend's house to play, a normal occurance. A friend that lives close by us in GA, but the whole group (son, friend, parent of friend etc) are in NY. And we'll be in the house that my parents previously lived in, the one I lived in for 20 years of my younger life, not the house that they live in now.
OR... I'll have of dream of being here in G.A. but I'll be in a store and I will run in to someone from my past in NY, and will seem common, like nothing out of the ordinary, almost like they belong here.
So things are generally ordinary, but the people are out of place. People from my past, are here (locally) with me now, or people in my present locale are in my past locales but it's the present
Are there any 'seers' out there who could see in to this?
A little back ground. I moved from the Northeast (NY/CT area) to VA. Got married, Had kids, was dx'ed with a condition that could utimately impact my life M.S..THEN moved to GA.
Life was GREAT! I was a SAHM of 2 kids, and hubby travelled for business. When the kids were both in school he asked that I find a part time job to help out with the extras in life. I thought that my salary would be used for the 'gravy'. I later found out that he wasn't travelling just for his occupation, he had 3 affairs, and knowingly exposed me to an uncurable STD. I have not told my family about the # of affairs, or the STD. So, we are now separated, and I have to work (alot) just to pay bills. I struggle with stress brought on by working and taking care of everything on my own, and the stress is not good for the M.S. I make less than 15% of what he makes. He pays the mortgage, and the insurances (which are bundled). I have paid EVERYTHING else for the house and most of the bills for the kids.(I say most, b/c I'm sure he can claim that he pay something).
My family is mostly still up north. I am getting pressured by some of them (parent who is a nurse) to move back north. I can not afford that. I don't want to accept financial help from them. MY STBX has generally always had the attitude of, 'Your family has $, they can pay for...." when it came to my family. BUT when it came to his family, we couldn't do enough for them. We would travel to the mid west where they lived (paid our own way, of course, unlike them) and if we went anywhere with them (although we were the ones taking time from work to be there) we paid for EVERYTHING!! Not just family, but if they brought friends with them, we paid for that too. It wasn't like we were taking them out to pay for thier hospitality. I would not have minded, but from my DH (away from them of course) I would hear, "we've got to tighten our belts".
I think that taking financial support from my family will just lead to him saying, "You have plenty of 'help' from your parents, you don't need XX from me". I have also NOT told them (may family) that he refuses to pay the majority of the bills.
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If you really want your dreams analysed I think there may be a group on CafeMom that could help you more. Just do a search.
I'm sorry you're going through all this, make sure you stick it to your ex in the divorce. He's the cause of all the problems and he should pay for it in Every way.
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Sorry about all you been through with your DH. No one should be treated like that. (((Hugs)))