hi my name is kayla i am a 24 yr old momma with 2boys and a 3rd on the way. we are a very low income family. i try my best to get my boys what they want for xmas. when i was little i remember under the xmas tree was filled with xmas presents 4 me b4 my sisters were born so i feel i owe my boys the same treatment because even when my sisters were born we still had alot of presents each (may have been alot to me then) but i just feel that my boys deserve the same treatment and my momma and us was a low income family to but my momma always found away to get us alot of things for xmas and i want the same for my boys but somehow i cant seem to aford alot for them. i always get so much guilt built up its unreal and i know they are only 3yrs and 1yr old and dont understand that well and is happy with anything they get but its the thought that will always b in the back of my head. maybe there is away to manage my money better??
You shouldn't feel guilty...I would almost guarantee there were a few Christmas' that you don't remember that were leaner than others...for kids it's basically the excitement of Christmas that gets them going and not so much how many gifts they got....If you really think back to your gifts - did you ever count them? - I bet not.
Just enjoy the holiday with your kids...you got what you can afford...never over extend yourself because that is a hole you don't want to dig yourself out of.
Do not feel guilty. You could always buy coloring books (if your children like them) and wrap them up too. Little things that could be fun to open. Christmas is not about the number of presents but the memories you create with your children.
Sounds like you are doing fine, momma! Your 1 year old would probably be happy with an empty box, tissue paper and a bow (I am speaking from experience!). This may sound stupid, but have you asked your mom how she did it? Also, I know consignment stores usually have some great "gently-used" toys at great prices. I know people say it all the time, but the boys, at that age, are not going to remember what they opened, but they will remember you were there for them. Don't be so hard on yourself. Just get them some little, inexpensive things they can have fun opening. I remember one of the best "toys" I ever had was a refrigerator box that my brother and I decorated up as our "spaceship!" We played with that thing forever! Make them a fort out of blankets and read them a book while you have milk and cookies...your time with them is far more valuable than anything you could every buy them. Merry Christmas to you and those precious boys!
by MichelleMcDecember 17, 2012 at 2:46 PM
Don't feel guilty. My parents never had alot of money growing up, but Christmas was always great. We didn't have it thru out the year either. It isn't about things. We feel worse than they do. It is about the magic & time together, it really is. I think we get too into things & not into the time together. How about you start early & make it about doing things for others now. See about if you can do bell ringing, soup kitchen, helping serve a meal. And make it about that, and then always just make it about small amounts of presents. It shouldn't make you guilty or stress about money.
Your doing fine momma! :)
by Remerm12December 17, 2012 at 6:08 PM
My daughter is 2 and I also don't have a lot of money. I believe in teaching her the true reason to Christmas and always remember there are those that are less fortunate. For presents this year I have gone to all the local thrift stores and came across a lot of neat stuff, when they are little they don't know the diffrence between alot or a Little or new from used, so if what u want is the joy of seeing their little faces light up on Christmas morning I would suggest the thrift stores. And remind yourself too that there really are less fortunate familys out there. Good lick and merry Christmas to you and your little ones.
by tooptimisticDecember 17, 2012 at 10:03 PM
You can only do, what you can do. :)
Maybe you can a few little things from the dollar store to wrap up too..
It's the thought that counts. How about a family trip to the zoo or another place they like and allow each kid their own treat at the snack bar? Also, try dollar store toys. I'm 30 and I love opening presents. I don't expect expensive stuff. I just like the fact of opening them. They can be dollar store storage bins. LOL!
by dkvhensleyDecember 17, 2012 at 10:18 PM
That's just what I was thinking.
Take the commercialism out of the holiday and create memories. When we had very lean times we started a tradition of making holiday cookies. It was fun for everyone, and that's what they gave their teachers (and whoever else we gifted). At that age the kids don't care. They'd rather play with the boxes. Relax. At the end of the day it won't matter how much you spent on Christmas, but on the traditions you began.