arilolojrsmom
I don't know if I should as???
December 8, 2012 at 10:51 AM

My s/o pay child support and we have money put to the side so if his kids need money for sports or anything we have it and give it to them. So i have been thinking if i should ask my x (father of my 2 girls) if he could help pay for the girls dance. I do get child support.. NO i am not a money hungry bitch.. The girls love to go to dance class. and usually i dont need help with it unitl like now. When i need to have a down payment for their recital dresses. I have been trying different ways on asking him. A part of me doesn't want to ask him cause i know he will tell me..A) I give you cs B) dont i give you enough. Right now he lives in a diffferent state, but is plaining on moving back here to be closer to the girls...i was thinking about waiting till he moves back to ask... What would you ladies do?shrugging

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  • arilolojrsmom
    December 10, 2012 at 6:59 AM

    I caught him  when he was at work and running on like 2 hrs of sleep lol

    Quoting Janet:

     You must have caught him in a good mood. I'm happy for you!

    Quoting arilolojrsmom:

    ok so i asked him and he shocked me. 1st he asked how much and i said whatever he can give me.. then he said he doesnt see why no. i fell on the floor..

     


  • arilolojrsmom
    December 10, 2012 at 7:00 AM

    if he doesnt ill be on her venting lol

    Quoting Mommyof2114:

    I hope he does what he needs to do :) ugh... Men! Lol...


    Quoting arilolojrsmom:

    but we will see the end of jan if i get anything the next payment for dance is due in feb... or i will get well  i thought i could but i didnt have enough...i hope he prove me wrong..

    Quoting Mommyof2114:

    That's awesome!





    Quoting arilolojrsmom:

    well at first he said how much..and i said anything he could afford...then he said he didnt see why he couldnt...i dont care if its only 20 atleast he is helping.

    Quoting Mommyof2114:

    What did he say







  • SlapItHigh
    December 10, 2012 at 9:54 AM

    Having trouble following your post but if you feel you need money for your children, just be straightforward with their father and ask.

  • arilolojrsmom
    December 10, 2012 at 9:59 AM

    sorry i tend to just blab like that...its not that i need it but all he does is pay cs and the girls get a phone call every now and then. he lives in a diff state...and want to move back to the state where i am.. so he can try to be a part of the girls lives. but we will see if that happens but he did say he would help...but again we will see

    Quoting SlapItHigh:

    Having trouble following your post but if you feel you need money for your children, just be straightforward with their father and ask.


  • SlapItHigh
    December 10, 2012 at 10:02 AM

    No problem, hope it works out.

    Quoting arilolojrsmom:

    sorry i tend to just blab like that...its not that i need it but all he does is pay cs and the girls get a phone call every now and then. he lives in a diff state...and want to move back to the state where i am.. so he can try to be a part of the girls lives. but we will see if that happens but he did say he would help...but again we will see

    Quoting SlapItHigh:

    Having trouble following your post but if you feel you need money for your children, just be straightforward with their father and ask.



  • arilolojrsmom
    December 10, 2012 at 10:04 AM

    thanks me too. 

    Quoting SlapItHigh:

    No problem, hope it works out.

    Quoting arilolojrsmom:

    sorry i tend to just blab like that...its not that i need it but all he does is pay cs and the girls get a phone call every now and then. he lives in a diff state...and want to move back to the state where i am.. so he can try to be a part of the girls lives. but we will see if that happens but he did say he would help...but again we will see

    Quoting SlapItHigh:

    Having trouble following your post but if you feel you need money for your children, just be straightforward with their father and ask.




  • jaydensmom1726
    December 10, 2012 at 11:46 AM

    i am glade i wont have that issue my soon to be ex-husband says he has no issue helping if our son needs somthing extra .outside of what i will get for cs.

  • JC2223
    by JC2223
    December 10, 2012 at 12:18 PM

     Unless you ask, the answer is always NO. If sharing extra curricular activity costs is not written in your CO, just ask him. If it is written in, tell him.

  • goddess99
    December 10, 2012 at 1:07 PM

    That's great. I'm glad he's helping.

  • KG34
    by KG34
    December 10, 2012 at 7:25 PM

    I ask my ex to help pay for things all the time. It's never been a problem. He's more than happy to help.