My newest baby is 2 weeks old today. I was worried that my toddler would be "jealous" of him -- but, so far, so good. She's very sweet to the baby & hugs & kisses him all the time. BUT she has started crying almost all the time. She will lie on the floor & scream for no reason. She's waking up 4 & 5 times a night. She is wearing me out. I don't know if this is just the "terrible 2s" or if it's a reaction to the new baby. Has anyone else had to deal with this?
First I would take her to the doctor and make sure it isn't a medical problem since she is waking in the night and crying. Could be her ears or something. They don't always get a fever or pull at them. If not I would say it is a combo of the new baby and her age.
I agree with Janet, I would take my child to the dr if she was doing what you describe. If the dr rules everything out, then I'd guess it had to do with the new baby. It's very yard for young children when a new sibling enters the picture. Imagine your husband saying he loves you so much that he wanted a new wife to come into the home, lol. That's almost how it feels for the child. But a 20 month doesn't have the skills/experience/brain development to handle it as well as an adult can. That might result in outbursts and crying. Don't ignore her, be there for her. Comfort her. SHow her that she deserves just as much attention as baby.
My sons are 20 months apart. I really didn't have this problem with my oldest though. I also involved him a lot with his younger brother's care. I also made a point to spend time with just him (when baby is napping or daddy is giving baby a bath etc..) I'd say as the pp did take her to the doctor and make sure there isn't anything medical going on.