I just cant take it anymore. My son is 5 but not yet in Kindergarden because I know I would get called every day. He hits me, says he hates me, wont listen, wont mind, throws things at me. I try to play with him when I can but I have a newborn so I'm busy all the time. My husband is at work all day, but helps out when he gets home. Time outs is what usually starts the violence. I try charts, rewards, special time with me, but its hopeless. He is so abusive to me, but noone has ever abused him. I cant go visit friends because noone else likes him either. I hate myself so much. What kind of a mother am I? I sometimes wish it were just me and my husband and the baby. I cant stop crying. I've had him evaluated and they say he is just a little bit ADHD, but medication made him 10 times worse. I cant go to a different Dr. Because the Oregon health plan only lets you see a specialist twice and he is the only one on the list anyway. They dont care about kids, trust me. I just cant take it anymore
by DixieFlowerDecember 6, 2012 at 8:07 PM
I agree with this. OP, if he was put on ADHD medication you'd need to see the doctor more often. Typically ADHD medications require a 3 month med check to make sure they aren't causing the child harm and that the dosage is working. There are several types of ADHD medication. If the one that was prescribed made him worse he might need a different type. Also Look into the "Elimination Diet for ADHD" you might be surprised how somethings in everyday foods are causing behavioral problems. We did this with my nephew when he was first DX'd with ADHD. We found out that when we removed foods that had red food dye and preservatives that his behavior was much better.
Which county are you in? I'm at a training with a bunch of state employees thus week and can check in with them, but I need to know your county. And make an appointment with your sons ped, they can also be advocates for you as well.
by AroojOmerDecember 7, 2012 at 6:01 AM
yeah I'm doing my masters degree in clinical psychology...
by delanna6twoDecember 7, 2012 at 11:16 AM
Hugs...hope things will work out..