I was wondering if someone could shed some light on how to handle my son's tantrums?
Also, he has had night terrors for a week now and I have no clue why. He yells mama constantly but while sleep and I can't get him to wake up when he does that. He usually stops after 3-5 minutes.
by DazeDelightsNovember 29, 2012 at 6:17 PMThe tantrums don't put up with it. Either walk away or spank that ass...I have no idea about night terrors
by Bek22November 29, 2012 at 8:52 PMThe night terrors I am very familiar with, but hopefully your son will grow out of his ASAP. I suffer from night terrors and so far 3 out of 4 of my kids do. The youngest is still a babe, so who knows. It started with them probably around 2 or 3 and now they are 4, 12 and 16. Being I have had them my while life, I am assuming they will too. My 12 year old has probably had them the most often and they can be very scary. The most important thing I have learned do to is to wake them. This is not as easy as it may seem. They look awake, but they are not at all and everything is terrifying to them. Once they are awake I can usually comfort them and direct them right back to bed. As far as the tantrums go, I just say don't put up with them at all. There are many more to come, but just let him know who's boss right off the bat:)
by jltplk25November 30, 2012 at 12:26 AM
I've read not to bother them when they're having night terrors but that was about 7-8 years ago. Lol. As for the tantrums, at this age it's best to redirect or ignore. They can't verbalize needs/frustrations and will often erupt in tantrums to get it out. Working with them by teaching sign language can help alleviate some frustrations as well as speaking calmly to them, trying to help bring them down.
by SlapItHighNovember 30, 2012 at 2:32 AM
Stay calm, stay present.
November 30, 2012 at 10:19 AM
Thank you. I will definitely try this.
by delanna6twoNovember 30, 2012 at 10:25 AM
(click link for full article) googled from kidshealth.org
Coping With Night Terrors
Night terrors can be very upsetting for parents, who might feel helpless at not being able to comfort or soothe their child. The best way to handle a night terror is to wait it out patiently and make sure the child doesn't get hurt by thrashing around. Kids usually will settle down and return to sleep on their own in a few minutes.
It's best not to try to wake kids during a night terror. Attempts usually don't work, and kids who do wake are likely to be disoriented and confused, and may take longer to settle down and go back to sleep.
There's no treatment for night terrors, but you can help prevent them. Try to:
- reduce your child's stress
- establish and stick to a bedtime routine that's simple and relaxing
- make sure your child gets enough rest
- prevent your child from becoming overtired by staying up too late
Understanding night terrors can reduce your worry — and help you get a good night's sleep yourself. But if night terrors happen repeatedly, talk to your doctor about whether a referral to a sleep specialist is needed.
by kirbymomNovember 30, 2012 at 11:00 AM
Hi BluLady. Welcome to the group. :)
From what I understand about night terrors, this means they do not feel secure about themselves or their surroundings. I remember going through them myself as a small child. Not pretty. But they can be dealt with. Your son is looking for reassurance that he is safe and secure and the night terrors are the only way he knows how to express that since he doesn't understand how to verbalize what he is feeling psychologically right now. The best way to deal with this is throughout the day, make sure he feels safe and knows it for sure. Which means you will be giving lots of hugs and kisses and verbal assurances of him being safe and sound and that you won't let anything happen to him, ever. This will need to happen several times throughout the day for several days, maybe over a week or two. He will start to feel better and feel more secure that either you or himself are not going to be taken away. Thereby the night terrors should start to lessen and eventuall work themselves into non-existance. I would bet that his tantrums are just an exstension of those night terrors as well. Be that as it may, you can't just let him throw them either. I would set him in a chair in the living room for a few minutes and tell him that he is to set there because of his tantrums and when he feels like he is done throwing them, he may get up. You will probably have to do this several times berfore he understands that that will be his consequence for exhibiting that kind of behaviour. Hopefully this won't last very long before you can get him on track to a better thinking process for himself. Good luck and keep us posted on you and your family. :)
November 30, 2012 at 12:30 PM
Thank you. Last night was better. I just limited his sugar and let him take a power nap before dinner. Also we cuddled together a little before I put him to bed in his room. He slept like an angel until I woke up his this morning to get ready to start our days.