Hi ladies!! my name is alexis and im new here, i have two kids. A little boy (2) named Hayden and a baby girl (5 months) named Olivia. Here is my problem. My brother in law is dating a girl who has a 6 month old baby. the back story was that when we found out she was pregnant she made us believe that the baby was brandon's. Now she did say that it may be someone else's but for the most part she believed it was his. Well the baby was born and to be sure we did a paternity test. the baby turned out not to be his. By this time my mother in law had already gotten attached to the baby. She decided that we should all just pretend the baby was my brother in law's. a bunch of people in my husband's family was against this whole thing. They believed that my brother in law was too young to be involved with a girl with a baby, not to mention that he had flunked ninth grade twice and that if he didnt get his act together this year he was going to be sent to alternative school. Of course my mother in law ignored this and is totally content on her son playing daddy. another incident is his girlfriend thinks that he may be cheating on her. she found some texts on his phone to another girl. he told her that is wasnt that way, but come on ladies! its high school! i want to talk to my father in law about this whole situation. I feel like my brother in law is getting a little tired of this whole thing and wants to be a normal teenager but he is afraid of hurting his mother, and of course he is worried about what may happen to the baby if they break up. What do you ladies think? Should he be helping this girl take care of her baby at such a young age? do you think this other girl is just a friend? give me your opinion and if any of you ladies have had experience with this type of situation or had a situation similar to it what did you do?
by splatzNovember 27, 2012 at 12:55 PM
I'm honestly not sure. I think this is one of those situations where there isn't really a "right answer". Its pretty sad all around. :(
I agree with ALL of you!! it breaks my heart and it disgust me every time i see him with this girl. he cant even hang out with his friends without having to leave early so that his girlfriend canpick up her baby. His mom really annoys me because she knows that this isnt right but she contiues to act like it is normal. For what ever reason she isnt registering that this relationship is a HIGH SCHOOL relationship!!. Its almost as if she believes that these two will get married. She tells people that this girl's baby is her grandchild and she tries to force my husband to see this baby as his niece!! I'm sorry but i feel like she is going too far. I dont want my brother in law to have to deal with a baby at such a young age. but she is his MOM she should realize that this isnt right.
November 27, 2012 at 4:59 PM
What a tough situation and one that could easily end on heartbreak on the part of many people. I wish them all the best of luck and I hope whatever is the best thing for everyone involved happens.
by othermomNovember 27, 2012 at 8:48 PM
I think it is kind of cool that he is trying to help with the baby, not a lot of guys that age would. But he needs to get his life together first
by JOEJULANovember 27, 2012 at 9:10 PM
Dude really he is 16. NOT cool. Sounds like the MIL has a poor outlook on her sons future. Sounds like she may want the baby more then the son. She can still be involved with the baby. The girl will be around because lets face it! She is 16 with a baby she will need all the help she can get. I know I was a teen mom.
by DixieFlowerNovember 28, 2012 at 10:38 PM
My first question would be how does your brother in law feel about "playing daddy"? Does he have an issue with it?