I am a mother of 3. no longer a wife. but I do take care of my mother who is 77, and can no longer do things on her own. I manage to home school my yongest child, take care of everones needs work full time. and take care of all the pets that we have which adds up to a total of 11. the only problem that I usuall have is no me time. . . when on the rare ocassion when i do get me time I do not have a clue what to do with myself. If all the children and pets and parent is taken care of laundry done and put up house clean. can not work outside raining or cold weather. I am at a lost. but with all this i can usually still find something that needs done some time i just sit and really watch t.v. but have trouble sitting that long because i am not use to it.
I have 3 kids and a husband and IMO, the most important thing is understanding everyone's needs (including my own). Afterall, how can we all get our needs fulfilled if we don't even understand what they are. For example, I've learned that my husband and kids often don't know what they need and may become cranky without realizing why. We create understanding by fostering close attachment and communication. This means love and affecion is a top priority!!! This closeness helps us to better identify what each other needs. Keeping the lines of communication open -- validating others feelings with empathy helps with this.
wow you definitely have your hands full. I thinks it's importamt to have "me time" so you can still feel like you can do stuff (even if it's going t the grocery store by yourself) or going to have coffee with a friend. But it is hard with kids. I am hoping I can find a balance with everything and continue to try to make everyone happy and myself also