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Sounds good except i have 3 kids. I dont need my husband being treated like a child too lol. I reward him with certain explicit things but still to no success
Quoting LadyBugMom09:
Why don't you give him a "reward" the next time he actually does something. Even if it's something small. ;)
Quoting ARMYWife624:
Haha quite possibly!!! When we first got our house he was a champ. Not so much now. :-/ the only reason the house is clean is cuz i do it but it is stressful because I have school, work, kids, and him. He doesn't understand how 1 time of cleaning the dishes would make a huge difference in my attitude.
Quoting LadyBugMom09:
Yes, that exact same issue. Are we married to the same man???? He's gotten better over the years from my nagging, but I hate nagging. :/
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Maybe you shouldnt have cleaned it? Or cleaned with him the day he made the mess. -
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Except he made the mess at 10:00 something pm. I had to leave the house by 7:45 am. I wasnt staying up to clean since i had to work 13 hrs. I dont mind cleaning but i do mind him saying hes gonna do something and then not do it. And not cleaning would have got me no where. It would just sit there until i did clean it. :-/
Quoting unsuspected:
Maybe you shouldnt have cleaned it? Or cleaned with him the day he made the mess.
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I think you're crazy overreacting. He cooked why should he clean? Idk I don't let silly things bother me. I'd rather take 20 mins clean it and than relax and be happy. Life's too short!! -
What is with men and not caring if the kitchen is clean?! I swear he will clean the whole house and leave the kitchen for me.....
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Ummm...maybe you didn't read the post completly but i clearly stated that I cook AND clean ALL the time. I NEVER ask for anything from him. Mind you I am a fulltime student, employee, wife and mom. Doing dishes one time won't kill him. He works 4 days a week. yes his job is taxing on his body but HE can take 20 minutes out of HIS day off to clean. That's fine that you think he shouldn't clean after he cooked, if thats the way it is in your home, thats fine. The issue is he PROMISED to do something and didn't do it. This is a big deal for me. I had a 13 hour shift to work only to come home to a dirty kitchen that my dh PROMISED to clean. See my point? I clean up every day, do his laundry, cook him dinner, get the kids to school, do my own school, go to work and then in the evening we spend an hour or 2 with each other. 1 time won't kill him. It isn't silly if you have a busy schedule like myself. But thanks for the advice.
Quoting OliviasMommy611:
I think you're crazy overreacting. He cooked why should he clean? Idk I don't let silly things bother me. I'd rather take 20 mins clean it and than relax and be happy. Life's too short!! -
I read your whole post. I just have a different perspective. Calm down. Gsh
Quoting ARMYWife624:
Ummm...maybe you didn't read the post completly but i clearly stated that I cook AND clean ALL the time. I NEVER ask for anything from him. Mind you I am a fulltime student, employee, wife and mom. Doing dishes one time won't kill him. He works 4 days a week. yes his job is taxing on his body but HE can take 20 minutes out of HIS day off to clean. That's fine that you think he shouldn't clean after he cooked, if thats the way it is in your home, thats fine. The issue is he PROMISED to do something and didn't do it. This is a big deal for me. I had a 13 hour shift to work only to come home to a dirty kitchen that my dh PROMISED to clean. See my point? I clean up every day, do his laundry, cook him dinner, get the kids to school, do my own school, go to work and then in the evening we spend an hour or 2 with each other. 1 time won't kill him. It isn't silly if you have a busy schedule like myself. But thanks for the advice.
Quoting OliviasMommy611:
I think you're crazy overreacting. He cooked why should he clean? Idk I don't let silly things bother me. I'd rather take 20 mins clean it and than relax and be happy. Life's too short!!
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i don't mind you having a different persepective, I just wanted to make sure you were clear of the entire situation. I normally don't mind cleaning up but I needed to get some rest before my long shift. I came off as rude but I don't mean to. just a habit.
Quoting ARMYWife624:
Ummm...maybe you didn't read the post completly but i clearly stated that I cook AND clean ALL the time. I NEVER ask for anything from him. Mind you I am a fulltime student, employee, wife and mom. Doing dishes one time won't kill him. He works 4 days a week. yes his job is taxing on his body but HE can take 20 minutes out of HIS day off to clean. That's fine that you think he shouldn't clean after he cooked, if thats the way it is in your home, thats fine. The issue is he PROMISED to do something and didn't do it. This is a big deal for me. I had a 13 hour shift to work only to come home to a dirty kitchen that my dh PROMISED to clean. See my point? I clean up every day, do his laundry, cook him dinner, get the kids to school, do my own school, go to work and then in the evening we spend an hour or 2 with each other. 1 time won't kill him. It isn't silly if you have a busy schedule like myself. But thanks for the advice.
Quoting OliviasMommy611:
I think you're crazy overreacting. He cooked why should he clean? Idk I don't let silly things bother me. I'd rather take 20 mins clean it and than relax and be happy. Life's too short!! -
I don't have those issues b/c my dh would clean before he sat around a dirty house. In reality, I woudl be the one more likely to say I'd clean it and then forget. But I would hope my dh would talk to me about it. I think you have every right to be upset. Talk to him about how this makes you feel.