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HELP!
by Pammi86
October 2, 2012 at 2:10 PM

My dd is 16 months old and driving me crazy! I know she gets what no means but she does not care! I have tried everything and now find myself yelling a lot which does not help! She just ignores me! When I try to move her out of the situation she hits or bites and time outs mean nothing to her. I feel like I am at the end of my rope! I need advice ladies! I do not want to be that parent thats screaming all the time! : (

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  • vinalex0581
    October 3, 2012 at 9:41 AM

    start spanking her then.

    what else can you do? if time outs don't work, something has to.

  • TeaHound
    October 3, 2012 at 9:51 AM
    We had to institute that a pop was singular and a "spank" was plural (never more than 3)

    Quoting vinalex0581:

    start spanking her then.

    what else can you do? if time outs don't work, something has to.

  • TeaHound
    October 3, 2012 at 9:51 AM
    We had to institute that a pop was singular and a "spank" was plural (never more than 3)

    Quoting vinalex0581:

    start spanking her then.

    what else can you do? if time outs don't work, something has to.

  • timswife_momof2
    October 3, 2012 at 9:53 AM

    I hate spanking my kids so i try not to have to do it, but there are times when spanking is the only option.

  • goddess99
    October 3, 2012 at 9:55 AM

    My dd s 10 and still doesn't listen half the time, nor does she care. Sorry

  • Kiki7808
    October 3, 2012 at 10:12 AM

    my son is 15m and the same way, honestly i am still trying to figure it out. my dd was never like this, we had to put locks on the cabinets cuz ds kept going in them after getting in trouble over and over. i would suggest like taking anything that she shouldnt be getting into away of having it somewhere she cant get it so that would eliminate yelling at her touching things she isnt supposed to. also you have to pick your battles especially with being so young ther is still alot they dont understand. another thing i try to do is instead of saying NO or DONT tell her what you want her to do... a kids world is full of those words plus that way you are teacher her what you want her to be doing and not what you dont... does that make sense. example... if she is climbing on stuff you dont want her to be instead of yelling and tell her " no get down' you would say "feet on the ground, see like this, mommy's feet are on the ground" help her down if you need than say " yay see your feet are on the ground! please keep them on the ground"  plus if you ever feel like you have no more ideas.. google!!!! seriously you can find a ton of different kinds of techniques. good luck!! aslo remember that you cant control how she is going to act but you can control yourself and how you react to situations, remembering that has helped me alot!

  • CLG122
    by CLG122
    October 3, 2012 at 10:20 AM

    I disagree with the other moms.  Spanking is NOT appropriate for a 16 month old.  Especially if she's been hitting.  Spanking will just reinforce that we hit when we don't like what someone's doing-- seriously.

    I would do this: set up a Pack N Play with NO TOYS in it.  Put it in a separate room from where you usually are, or an out-of-the-way spot where she won't be able to make eye contact with you.  EVERY SINGLE TIME she bites/hits/etc, you say "NO biting" and put her in that Pack N Play for 90 seconds.  Set a timer.  Do not talk to her or look at her during time out.  When time's up, you pick her up and say "no biting, okay?  Be a nice girl!" Smile and give her a hug.  She has to know that you will not tolerate the behavior, but that you forgive and still love her.

    16 month olds are tricky!

    You have to be consistent.  But you should definitely not use time-out or any other kind of punishment when she's just getting into things that you don't want her touching.  The answer for that is baby-proofing.  If you don't want her touching the DVD player, get a TV unit with doors and put a zip tie or cabinet lock on it.  (Ours has glass doors so we can use the remotes while the doors are locked.)  If she's getting into trouble in the kitchen, gate the whole room off.  At 16 months, she really is just exploring.  Even if it's making you crazy :) 


  • sashamom03
    October 3, 2012 at 10:24 AM
    I don't believe in spanking. What do you get frustrated with? She's only 16 months old. If she does understand you. And she is doing something she shouldn't, just start taking things away from her like favorite toys and look her in the eyes and tell her no.
  • one_on_the_way
    October 3, 2012 at 10:35 AM

    After I placed my son back in his timeout chair 42 times (he kept getting up and running away....then he thought it was funny....after the 42nd time of me putting him back in timeout - he stayed there) they suddenly 'meant something' to him. He was 15 months old at the time.  Maybe you've done that, and time outs still 'mean nothing' to her.  Or maybe she just sits in them, but doesn't change her behavior?  I think a lot of parents expect that their child will just sit in a timeout and as soon as the child tries getting out of it, they claim 'they don't work' or 'they mean nothing'.  Have you really stuck it out?  Are timeouts even something you want to try?  Once I had them really established, timeouts worked wonders for me and my son.  But, it took a lot of work to get to that point.  Totally worth it, though.

  • Melissa823
    October 3, 2012 at 10:57 AM

    THIS IS GREAT ADVICE!!

    Quoting CLG122:

    I disagree with the other moms.  Spanking is NOT appropriate for a 16 month old.  Especially if she's been hitting.  Spanking will just reinforce that we hit when we don't like what someone's doing-- seriously.

    I would do this: set up a Pack N Play with NO TOYS in it.  Put it in a separate room from where you usually are, or an out-of-the-way spot where she won't be able to make eye contact with you.  EVERY SINGLE TIME she bites/hits/etc, you say "NO biting" and put her in that Pack N Play for 90 seconds.  Set a timer.  Do not talk to her or look at her during time out.  When time's up, you pick her up and say "no biting, okay?  Be a nice girl!" Smile and give her a hug.  She has to know that you will not tolerate the behavior, but that you forgive and still love her.

    16 month olds are tricky!

    You have to be consistent.  But you should definitely not use time-out or any other kind of punishment when she's just getting into things that you don't want her touching.  The answer for that is baby-proofing.  If you don't want her touching the DVD player, get a TV unit with doors and put a zip tie or cabinet lock on it.  (Ours has glass doors so we can use the remotes while the doors are locked.)  If she's getting into trouble in the kitchen, gate the whole room off.  At 16 months, she really is just exploring.  Even if it's making you crazy :) 



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