Mom to Mom
My ex is dating a new girl.
She knows of his physical abuse, and he's 28, works 15 hours at a pizza place and is failing out of school..
I understand why they are dating. She doesn't have custody of her son, and is out on bond waiting for trial.
I just don't understand females, and why they allow themselves to be used like he is using her. She's been with all his friends, and has now settled on my ex. Gross. Sorry. I'm done lol
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Sounds like he's found the right girl for himself! One who can't take care of her own child and is as much of a deadbeat mom as he is a dad.
Oddly, this still makes me want pizza a little bit.
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I really hate that term. I have a son I never see (I do pay child support) due to circumstances completely beyond my control or choice. I'm not an ex-con, on parole, abusive or unemployed. I have 2 children here who are my whole reason for living, and I would be thrilled if their brother were here with us, but his mother is not ever going to make that possible. I know there are some men who father children and then forget they exist, but I also know the vast majority of dads not in a relationship with their minor children are in situations that are not easily explained by a single, derrogatory term.
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Well..................... okay you will hate me for saying it, but ONCE YOU thought he was all that and you had sex with him and probably actually thought he was going to step up and was really going to love you etc....
Well, that girl is thinking the same thing. So many girls are quite delusional. Let's all hope you woke up and now don't just fall into bed with any guy who gives you a wink.
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Well when we were together the first 2 yrs he was a COMPLETELY different person! But so was I we smoked pot and played video games together... I was only 19 and not a mother... once we got pregnant everything changed he became angry and mean and didnt want to change his ways and I grew up... I left when DS was 4 months old.
Quoting Lorelai_Nicole:
What was he like when you were with him?
Quoting magenta_purdy:
Some girls are just trash.... my DS father is still living at his mamas, no job, broke down car, smoking pot, watchin porn, and since DS was born 4 yrs ago he has not purchased ONE item for him. does not bother trying to see DS only visits with him if his mother has DS for a weekend (last time was 4 months ago) and is 28 as well...his new gf (who knows all of these things) is 19 or maybe 20 by now and GOT PREGNANT with him?!?!
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It sounds like they are a match made in heaven.
A friend of mine married a man who doesn't even pay child support for his 3 other kids, never sees them, nothing. Now they have 2 kids together, but when she got pregnant he said "Wow, I've never had a baby that I've actually been excited about" What a winner..
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At least you got out and made a better life for you and your child.
Quoting magenta_purdy:
Well when we were together the first 2 yrs he was a COMPLETELY different person! But so was I we smoked pot and played video games together... I was only 19 and not a mother... once we got pregnant everything changed he became angry and mean and didnt want to change his ways and I grew up... I left when DS was 4 months old.
Quoting Lorelai_Nicole:
What was he like when you were with him?
Quoting magenta_purdy:
Some girls are just trash.... my DS father is still living at his mamas, no job, broke down car, smoking pot, watchin porn, and since DS was born 4 yrs ago he has not purchased ONE item for him. does not bother trying to see DS only visits with him if his mother has DS for a weekend (last time was 4 months ago) and is 28 as well...his new gf (who knows all of these things) is 19 or maybe 20 by now and GOT PREGNANT with him?!?!
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I have no clue either. Lack of self respect is all I can think of.
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I did tell you the best part. One of the older women he was dating, 22 years his Junior. Well, she just got indited on Vehicular Manslaughter. Yep, back in Nov. she smashed a car with three ederly people. One was fine, one broke their neck, and the other just died a few weeks ago. Needless, to say I keep my son as far away from him and the company he keeps.
Quoting recovered55:
Holy moly are they related? His new gf is out on bail awaiting her trial for her 3rd DUI and assaulting a police officer.
Quoting klbaker:
HI!
I understand where you are coming from. The father of my child is also 28 years-old and the biggest child I ever met. He doesn't have a job, he just got off house arrest for Felony DUI (3 Counts), doesn't pay child support (Never has), and his mom pays all his bills (yet he has his own house).
Older women date him and I wonder, why? He always has an excuse for everything all the time. He tells all our friends from school he supports our son paying money every month (But doesn't have a job). They aren't idiots, but he is.
I say girls you can have him. He was no good when I got pregnant by him, and I doubt at nearing 30 he will ever change. Time is running out to figure out what to do with your adult life. I just try and stay away and out of his business. IF he doesn't call to talk to our son, I don't push it!
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I'm sorry but why does this really matter? If my child's father were anything like this I would get his childsupport taken from his check by the state and then never have anything to do with him again.