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Capturing the Elusive Date Night
April 23, 2012 at 12:00 AM

It's a pretty rare occasion, honestly. I've heard of it happening, especially with other couples. I've heard the anticipation, the joy, the luxury, the opulence. 

I speak, OBVIOUSLY, of The Elusive Date Night.

When I say "it's a rare occasion", I may be slightly exaggerating. I've talked to some couples with kids the same ages as ours, and they claim to have not been out since the baby was born. And, seriously, I offer them my condolences.

But I also have friends - lots of them, actually - who manage to have Date Nights almost WEEKLY. If not SEVERAL TIMES A WEEK. Isn't that the most amazing thing you've ever heard? How does that HAPPEN?

(Are you one of those people? HOW DO YOU MAKE THAT HAPPEN?)

Anyway, we average one date night every six weeks or so. And because it happens so infrequently, we tend to fall into this routine: Sushi, movie, home by 11:00. Maybe 10:30. We'll sometimes swap out "movie" for "play" as we are theatre folks, but that's the routine. Always sushi, always home by 11:00. We have to pay the babysitter, after all.

This column is about slowing down to enjoy the weekends, I know. And I've tried to supply family-friendly ways to do that. But you know what? Sometimes, I need to be an adult. Who does adult things and drinks adult drinks and enjoys dinner while it's STILL WARM. I need to have a couple of hours without someone pawing at me, without hearing "MOMMA LOOK" eleventy frillion times, without having to dig out a spare band-aid/game/boogie wipe from my purse. I need that. 

(If I sound a little testy, it's because we're coming up on the six week mark.)

Aside from it being a great mental break, it's also - admittedly - nice to remember why I married the crazy man in my bed. (No, not that one. The OTHER one. The one with the wedding ring.) Granted, it's a struggle to find things to talk about outside of the kids - and I put no stock in that being an indication of a bad marriage, because if you have lunch with a coworker outside of work, what are Y'ALL gonna talk about? Work, right? It may eventually lead to a personal or general discussion, but chances are, you're focused on your common ground.

But what I'm saying here, rambling as it were, is that it's nice to sip a little sake and pretend that we don't have to get up at the crack of dawn the next morning to clean pee out of someone's bed linens.

How often do you get out for a date night? 


  • LuLuRex
    by LuLuRex
    April 25, 2012 at 5:18 PM

    We go out about once a month!

  • Madelaine
    April 25, 2012 at 7:29 PM

    We need a date night!

  • Kainalu55
    April 25, 2012 at 8:50 PM

    very rarely...but we did just go to the movies...we saw the hunger games!  i'd say we get to have a date night a few times a year!

  • Kainalu55
    April 25, 2012 at 8:52 PM

    that's great!

    Quoting elasmimi:

    Our gymnastics place has a parents night out every other Friday. We NEVER miss.

  • Kainalu55
    April 25, 2012 at 8:53 PM

    awww...of course married couples should date!!  hope you get your hubby to realize that!

    Quoting Mrs.Pool2Be:

    Not often at all!  :-(   My DH says that since we are married now that we aren't dating and that married couples don't "date".  I have tried to get him to see the error of his thinking but he doesn't listen to me.  We might go out just the two of us once a year, if that.

  • Kainalu55
    April 25, 2012 at 8:54 PM

    lucky! i wish we could do it at least once a week...or even once a month!

    Quoting millerbunch:

    at least once a week.. even if it's to run to the store together or grab a quick bite to eat.  so it could be a  'date-day' :)  lol

  • Wish2Be
    by Wish2Be
    April 25, 2012 at 9:37 PM

    The last time DH and I went on a date night was when Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows part 2 came out. All we did was go see the movie...then right back home we went.

    Heck My birthday dinner...and our 12 year anniversary dinner....we brough DS along with us....

  • Wish2Be
    by Wish2Be
    April 25, 2012 at 9:38 PM

    Quoting Bmat:

    When the kids were small, we rarely had a date night, since we couldn't find a reliable babysitter.

    I think that is part of our problem...DS is only 2.5 right now.

  • Wish2Be
    by Wish2Be
    April 25, 2012 at 9:40 PM

    Quoting MamaMandee:

    Date nights outside that house only a few times a year like maybe 6. But we have date night at home after the kids have gone to bed often! 

    Thats really sweet and cute :)

    I am usually out right there along with !

  • MamaMandee
    April 25, 2012 at 10:09 PM
    LOL! You should plan a date night in, maybe try to nap earlier in the day or some coffee.

    Quoting Wish2Be:

    Quoting MamaMandee:

    Date nights outside that house only a few times a year like maybe 6. But we have date night at home after the kids have gone to bed often! 

    Thats really sweet and cute :)

    I am usually out right there along with !

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