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On White Dining Room Chairs, and Striking a Balance
March 7, 2012 at 12:00 AM

When my husband and I first got married, we ran out and purchased this gorgeous yet ill-advised dining room set, complete with white fabric-topped chairs. Everyone in our lives wasted no time letting us know just how very, very  stupid this purchase was, for a number of reasons, one of which was "you're probably going to have kids one day, and these chairs are undoubtedly going to get destroyed." Being very young and very stupid - stupid enough to purchase white dining room chairs, clearly - we scoffed, and said something like "Oh, we'll just tell our kids not to go on the chairs."

Allow that to sink in for a moment, if you will: "We'll just tell our kids not to go on the chairs."


When I actually had my first kid a few years later, I had a similar attitude regarding feeding him: "Oh, we'll just only give him healthy things, and he won't even WANT to have candy! No sugar until he's ten, even!"

Fast forward a whole bunch of years, and I can tell you that I presently have dining room chairs that look as though they were rejected by a hobo camp, and not one but two kids who have totally eaten more than their fair share of candy. (And whose collective age doesn't even add up to ten.)

With the years come experience, is what I'm saying, and I am at a point now where I can look back and laugh -- hard -- at my ridiculous naiveté when it came to my kids/parenting. I have not given up entirely, though. No, far from it. What I've learned instead is how and when to pick my battles.

One of the battles I've chosen to "fight" is getting my kids to eat (fairly) healthfully. I have a full-time job, and so the time I get with my kids (especially during the week) is limited. I have worked pretty hard to ensure that this time isn't spent squaring off over platypus-shaped marshmallows, but at the same time, isn't a bleak existence of brown rice syrup-flavored gruel. (Does that even exist? Probably.) I do what I can to make eating well (again for the most part) a natural part of their lives, rather than me making a big deal of how healthfully they're eating.

Over the next few weeks I'm going to be writing here about some strategies I've found and  implemented (after COPIOUS trial and error) to make doing this with my kids something  that's effective, not too stressful (for any of us!), and - dare I say? - fun, all around.  

(Even if we do sometimes still eat taffy. On those white dining room chairs, naturally.)

What about you? What are the battles that you've chosen, as a parent?  




Replies

  • Leelee1008
    March 7, 2012 at 2:20 PM

    My Dr sugested for my DS when he was small to give him whole milk and a little ice cream once a day b/c he was tiny and very picky. also Peanut butter is always a good thing, lots of protien in it, but the fish has it too LOL.

    Quoting Wish2Be:

     Well my son is the pickiest eater...and I started him out with all organic healthy foods....due to him being a little low in weight and still super picky....he basically eats fish sticks and strip poppers with an occassional side of corn or baked beans :(. I am soo upset by his eating habits yet too afraid to make him skip a meal if he refuses to eat what I offer.



  • Wish2Be
    by Wish2Be
    March 7, 2012 at 2:22 PM

     DS drinks Almond Milk, but he gets yogurt daily with organic whole milk in it! :)

    He hates Peanut Butter, Eggs, Bread, Veggies, Pasta, Rice, Meats ( chicken, beef, sausage), I have also tried several types of beans for protien and he only likes baked beans occassionally. Its hard. :(

    Thank you!

    Quoting Leelee1008:

    My Dr sugested for my DS when he was small to give him whole milk and a little ice cream once a day b/c he was tiny and very picky. also Peanut butter is always a good thing, lots of protien in it, but the fish has it too LOL.

    Quoting Wish2Be:

     Well my son is the pickiest eater...and I started him out with all organic healthy foods....due to him being a little low in weight and still super picky....he basically eats fish sticks and strip poppers with an occassional side of corn or baked beans :(. I am soo upset by his eating habits yet too afraid to make him skip a meal if he refuses to eat what I offer.

     


     

  • MamaMandee
    March 7, 2012 at 2:30 PM

    I joke that I will never own anything nice until the kids grow up and move out lol 

  • KaroGreenly
    March 7, 2012 at 4:26 PM

    There aren't many things that I have to "fight" to get my children to do. 

    Picking up their toys is the big one. I took away most of their toys. Win for Mommy.

  • millerbunch
    March 7, 2012 at 4:45 PM

    eating in the living room ..  hubby and i do it.. and that is what a vacuum is for.

  • ethans_momma06
    March 7, 2012 at 6:11 PM

    Too many to count.

  • KristinRox
    March 7, 2012 at 7:35 PM

    The battles Ive chosen are getting them to eat things that are good for them. I also am big on teeth brushing. Sometimes they dont want to take the time.. but its a battle im willing to fight. 

  • elijahsmama09
    March 7, 2012 at 7:40 PM
    LMAO. I bought a brand new living rooom set in crushed suede. I was told by the sales person it is just as easy to clean as leather. They lied! Did I mention it is beige? It is now 2 yr odl and looks like hell. Ugh...
  • Kainalu55
    March 7, 2012 at 9:34 PM
    I just ask that the "listen" and do as they are told. I am pretty lenient with most things, but they know their boundaries
  • splatz
    by splatz
    March 7, 2012 at 10:23 PM

    I'm learning more & more I just need to pick my battles with both kids. Its so much easier to just let the small stuff slide!

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