so okay ladies, I have been telling yall whats been going on with me and my df fam for a bit now. no friends irl so to come here and chat with yall (even if it is 30 mb on df cell) is good for me. Well the youngest of df boys said to df yesterday. we gotta talk. I figure hes goin to try to not have the full rent again. oh no, it is to tell him, he is moving right now. while, I am happy. I was also upset. he only did that to not contribute to the light bill me just got. and he has been starting mess between the family members and I.he is the kind that starts ish, everyone starts arguing and he backs off and leaves the room. with our financial situation, he could have given us notice ahead of time but df said well best of luck. the way he has treated me and his dad. I feel like leave and dont ever come bck. less stress, dont come back for laundry,food, nothing. One down one to go
Everyone wants to have an effect on the world... this lad clearly gets something out of creating drama around him. Participating is optional. You know his pattern, next time he's around watch for it to see if you can figure out how it starts, which may give you ideas for how to avoid being a victim to it.
Kind of like knowing how con artists get you to give up your private information --which can help you see their tactics and avoid being scammed.
It sounds like you have been struggling in saying what you really want, and have been caving in a lot around other people's preferences. That's hard, and frustrating and exhausting.
thanx ladies. I have been having a pain of a pregnancy and they dont care nor help so it is fine by me. he told his brother he wont come by because we didnt make a big fuss when he left. he only txt his dad he was moving then five minutes later he leaves. now the other son is like he was reading my messages to my sil and that I didnt like when his other son was here but I never said that. I said I didnt like that the ppl that didnt know he was coming was me and df because they were trying to get him to move in our house with either of us knowing. so yeah I said something about it. that is just not cool. and I say what I say because they take it there. I am not stupid but they think I am. they want their parents back together but how old are they again? and I dont think I want a druggie back in the picture. one of the reasons they moved over here is cuz their mom would do drugs with them and then take money from them. anyway, I am just glad he is gone.