It seems everyone has sometechnique or piece of advice on
how to have better sex. But for one sex educator in San
Francisco, it isn't enough to have one 20-second orgasm each time. No,
this sex educator wants women to have orgasms that last four months.
Yes, you read that right. Four months! Author
and sex instructor Nicole Daedone teaches The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm, which, she
claims, with the right partner and advanced technique, can last for up to four
OK, but who
would really want that? Honestly?
Orgasms are fantastic. I love them, but when
they're over, I also love getting on with my life. I have no interest in
continuing those waves for one day, let alone four months.
She calls the practice "orgasmic meditation"
(OM), and it sounds less like a continual experience of the waves of orgasm and
more like living in an ongoing "aroused" state. Hmmm. It's still not sounding
fun to me.
In fact, the whole act involves 45 minutes a
day of "stroking" where the man touches the woman and describes every moment of
the process. Who has time for that?
I will admit I am curious, but 45 minutes a day
on top of marathon training, working, yoga, and my children seems a bit
excessive. I guess I would rather have a massage if I had 45 minutes a day to
devote to any kind of sensual pleasure.
Of course, this is a kind of massage. And the
fact is, couples who can talk about their sensations openly probably do have
better sex. But I'm still not sold on the idea of four months of arousal, orgasm
or not. Why does everyone feel the need to improve on something that is already
so amazingly good on its own?