We have a babysitter we absolutely adore! We've been using her for about 3.5 yrs now. My twin boys are 4.5 yrs old. The boys love her and will ask for her to come over. At one point last year they were getting upset when we would go out. My therapist suggested we explain to them that "Mommy and Daddy need playdates too". I really liked that way of explaining it to kids. They seem to grasp that concept since I encourage as many playdates as we can with their friends. It worked and they no longer get upset. We typically use her more in the summer bc she is away at college. If we have something big going on like a wedding she can come home bc her school is only 1 hr away (providing we can't get family to watch the boys of course.) We really enjoy having just a dinner out where we can have adult conversation, and then coming home to them refreshed!