okay, I know it is harsh to say but I have to vent. I am 7 months pregnant and I have been having a beavy of health issues because of vericose veins. I have a 7 yr old who thinks he is 17. My 2 and 4 yr old are acting out of character. My SOWorks every single day not to mention his sons are down living with us too. Theyre 19 and 24. My house looks a damn mess. I just clean all day with no help from any of them,except for their daily contribution of putting it back to pig stuy level. I tell my So that he needs to get in their ass about cleaning and helping. Well, he says it but the words r n one ear and out the other. So now, I don't want them around period. I feel like if u can do what I need to do and ur grown then move around. It is just stressful and I am just not in the mood. THANKS FOR LISTENING LADIES.
Oh yeah at that age - they can pull their own weight for sure! Rather than have your SO talk to them - you tell them! One thing I've learned is to say - would you like to do this or this? That way there is no option....they have to do something! kwim? Hope you feel better mama - you are almost there!
one pays rent and another is about to. in the past couple days, I laid down the law and my SO had nothing to say except, though I thought u were harsh I am glad cuz their mom couldnt do anything with them. so I said well what about their dad? it takes two and I dont have baby daddy drama for this very reason. I am raising a man not a boy. a dirty boy makes a dirty man. and I for one am not down for that sh--! he had nothing to say. see he knows how I am but I went through too much so now I am just taking my (for lack of a better word)power back. So thanks ladies for listening.