If you really want to torture a friend and make her hate you,
by all means, make her a bridesmaid. Oh it doesn't outwardly
seem like such an awful "honor," but the fact is, most women
hatebeing bridesmaids more than five extra pounds
during bikini season.
Don't believe me? Consider the phrase, "always
a bridesmaid, never a bride," or the way Pippa Middleton was
described as being so envious of her sister, the princess. Think of the movie
Bridesmaids. The fact is, being a bridesmaid is expensive,
time-consuming, and yes, sometimes even envy-inducing as well. Just ask the British bridesmaid from hell who stole all the bride's
bachelorette party money and vanished.
Awesome. Of course I had my own bridesmaid from
I was married more than eight years ago, but this woman's behavior still
stings. She had been a close high school friend, but we had drifted apart. Still
I remembered that she told me she would be mad if I didn't ask her to be a
bridesmaid. So I did, with the caveat that she was welcome to say no and I
wouldn't be hurt at all.
Instead she said yes and proceeded to complain about everything, from the
food we served to the cost of the dresses. She talked about me behind my back to
the other bridesmaids openly (which they told me). She refused to participate in
the bridal party gift to the bride, which would have cost her $20, but instead
created a really awkward moment where I thanked everyone and she had to tell me
it wasn't from her.
Worst of all, she sent me passive-aggressive cards talking about past
relationships and basically saying, "Gee I hope this one works." The lady was
insane. And by the end of it all, I (and all the other bridesmaids) hated her.
Even having her stand up for me was more than I could handle. She and I haven't
spoken in eight years, but even now, when I think of it, I am deeply
The fact is, a bad bridesmaid can ruin a friendship. If I had it to do over
again, I would have had my sister and my two best friends and that's it. Unless
you're swimming in very good, awesome friends and can afford to buy each maid
her dress for her, then my advice would be to skip the bridal party and just
enjoy a drama-free wedding.
I am still friends with all mine.. It was my sil(who I have a on again off again relationship with..we are on again currently..LMAO), my sister, one of my bf's(she lives in another state now so we hardly ever talk..)and my Aunt(RIP)
I only had one and she was a peach, but I got married in a ten dollar sundress and told everyone if they showed up any more dressed up than I was I was going to be pissed. Everyone wore what they could afford and what they were comfy with.
I DID have issues with someone I was a bridesmaid with once, though, she was evil. She hated her dress, and ripped it off halfway through the reception (before we danced with our partners for the video, natch) and threw it ON THE BRIDALS SUITES FLOOR. You know, where the bride and groom would be coming to spend their wedding night. Fortunately, I went up there to make sure every thing was neat and organized, and to put several gift envelopes away so that they wouldn't disappear.
I admit, the dresses were awful and the shoes were ridiculous, but the bridesmaids' behavior was way worse.