There's been much ado in my house in the past few weeks about a certain
just-turned-6-year-old's hair. Kiddo wants to grow it out like Rapunzel. I'd like to run a brush through it
daily without hitting on split ends. We could keep on fighting, but at the end
of the day, I'm taking the Courteney Cox approach to
hair for the elementary set.
The Friends star was spotted out and about with her own birthday
girl, daughter Coco, at a hair salon, where the 7-year-old had
blue and purple highlights streaked into her brown 'do. The
Daily Mail took its expected thwacks at the actress for treating her 7-year-old
like a teenager, but I'd like to give Cox two giant thumbs up from the parenting
world for a refreshing dose of reality. Repeat after me folks. It ... is ...
just ... hair. It's NOT worth fighting about.
Aside from the dangerous (I was once asked if I dyed my
infant's hair blond -- that would be a negative, you ninnies), there's little
about the locks that can really get me going. So you want to grow it out? Great.
Want to cut it off? Go for it. Otherwise? I'm with Cox ... let your freak flag
fly little one.
We have ground rules in our house, sure. It has to be kept
clean, reasonably neat, and for cripes' sake, will you STOP chewing on
it? But bad cuts grow out. Scary colors can be snipped out. Even a hunk of gum
can be fixed. The beauty of hair is that it's one of the body's few renewable
A tattoo is going to mark their body forever and really
should be limited to adulthood, when you can weigh out how it will feel to
present the boss with a forehead that reads "F--k the establishment." Piercings
can scar, and when it comes to beauty treatments, I'll direct you back to "aside
from the dangerous" because the regulation of the "kiddie cosmetics" industry
absolutely terrifies me.
So what does that leave? Hair. They can wear it up. They can wear it down.
They can shave it down to the skin or stop cutting it for two years. And
provided they stick to the basic: keep it clean and neat (and OUT OF THE MOUTH
because I have found pictures of those kids with hairballs in their stomachs on
the Internet, and it's not pretty), life goes on. By next week, the dye is
lightening. The mohawk is growing out.
Whatever it is, they don't change our kids on the inside. Those split ends
sure don't mean my kid is falling to pieces, so I'm betting Coco Arquette isn't
suddenly acting like a teenager with that dyed hair.
Do you care what happens with your kids' hair, provided it's neat and
clean? Are purple highlights really such a big deal?