I grew up with Step Siblings but I never considered them "Step", they are my brothers. My husbands ex wife tells my two step sons (her children) that their half brother is not, nor never will be their brother. She verbally attacks my 1 year old son through text messages and emails. I've never treated her badly and I've always said I will never take her spot, she will ALWAYS be their Mom and I've made it clear that I'm not on her side and I'm not on my husbands side...I'm on the boys side. Yet she still continues to tell them to act like they don't see us when we are at school function and my 1, almost 2 year old doesn't understand why his brothers wont come see him. She have those boys so scared that they are afraid to come to our house. The first day is us showing them that things their Mom has told them are not 100% sure, 2nd day they are amazing. Running around, playing, cuddling, etc. then the 3rd day comes and they watch the clock like crazy because they know they will be going back to Mommy's house soon. How do handle the drama and hurt she is causing her own children and our family? Will she ever act civil towards us? How can a Mother verbally attack another child?
I can't wait and I get so excited when the boys are coming for their weekends at our house but I hate the hurt that comes along with them.
The best thing to do is ignore her. You can probably change your cellphone number and not be charged for it if you tell them that you are being harrassed. You can also change your email address. DON'T give out any contact information to BM.
All you can do is to keep assuring the kids that you love them and that they are always welcome. Let BM dig her own grave. Kids aren't stupid and one day they will be old enough to either ignore her when she talks shit, or tell her that what she is saying isn't true and they don't want to hear it.
I know your situation is different but My DH and I went through something similar and this is what my DH did. He sent his ex a very rational email with just the facts, leaving out any emotions so that if it ever comes to it and you need to use it as evidence in court or mediation your DH doesn't look bad. He CC'd his lawyer on the email, basically saying he means business if she doesn't stop her shenanigans.
It worked for us, eventually she got the picture and stopped being so irrational.
If she keeps texting her like that and she tells her not to contact her anymore it is harrassment. And bd should have a problem with his baby being done like that. There is no reason for a bm to dp that
The harassment charges will be dropped due to, it's not actually harassment. And slapahoe will land you in jail with the other criminals.
I see whackjobs have told ya not to read them, but I would either file harrassment charges or go slapahoe on her