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Hope I did the right thing
by Anonymous
May 4, 2013 at 10:37 AM


I have recently found out that my 16 year old stepson and his 15 year old girlfriend have been sending each other naked pictures of each other. We talked to my stepson and told him how it is inappropriate and all that stuff but he did not tell his girlfriend that we seen the pictures so she continued to send inappropriate messages to him. he took another pic of himself naked a few days ago that I happened to see on his computer so he now has no access to any electronic devices. He went to school today and still did not mention to his girlfriend that he got in trouble and what for. so later this evening she wrote to him on facebook asking where he was, and I got the message.

This was my reply to her.


This is Jordan's step mom, Jordan has lost all privileges to Internet due to inappropriate messages that were sent back and forth between the two of you. Not sure if you were made aware but all of his messages are monitored. So until further notice he will not be available to chat. And FYI you may want to be careful with the type of pictures you send over the Internet.


this is her reply

Hi Mrs. G******. I understand that you may care less to speak or listen to what I have to say but I just wanted to say I'm sorry. And I am completely Ashamed and Embrassed on what happened. I've never been in a situation like this nor have I ever had inappropriate messages with anyone else and knowing that you were aware of these messages puts me to shame. I assume you may look low of me and I probably deserve it for making a horrible decision of going along with this but I truly am not that type of person. I hope you will not judge me over this. I'm sorry.

me:

I am not judging you at all. I do not think any less of you, I know how teenage hormones are. I just wanted to make you aware. I wish Jordan had made you aware when we first noticed the pictures, but it looks like he didnt. we let it slide the first time and let him know that unfortunately once you put something on the internet it is there and no getting it back. I am in no way upset with you, from what I have heard you are a good girl. I just dont want you or Jordan to get into anything over your head. I had my daughter at 17, so again I understand what it is like to be a teenager. Again, there are no hard feelings. and I dont think any less of you.

Her:

Thank you so much for not judging or thinking less of me because I am not that type of person. I honestly appreciate you for doing this and knocking some sense into us. Jordan never told me that you were aware I also wish had. Dont want to sound stuck up but yes I am a good girl but I made a very big mistake. And no ma'am I dont plan on doing anything I am still clean and plan to stay that way

me:

I hope so, and I know you are a good girl. That is the reason I wanted to tell you rather than involving your parents

her

Yes Ma'am and Thank you for talking to me about this instead of my parents.

If Mr. ***** also knew about this would you mind telling him I'm truly sorry or have him read these messages. And ohhhhhh yes ma'am it will stop! Oh trust me. I dont need to be reminded twice.


What do you all think about this. would you have handled it differently? would you have went to the parents?  What you do if you found naked pictures of your child on the computer?

Replies

  • leegirl_jm
    May 4, 2013 at 10:43 AM

    I think you did and remind your stepson that nothing is private on the internet and a number of persons have gotten into trouble over pictures like these. Remember that Weiner guy?

  • Frustrated10
    May 4, 2013 at 10:49 AM

    Great way to handle the situation!

  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous - Original Poster
    May 4, 2013 at 10:57 AM

    I did make sure he was aware of once it is out there it is there for good. I also let him no that there are laws about sending naked pictures and he could find himself in alot of trouble with the law.

    Who is the weiner guy?

    Quoting leegirl_jm:

    I think you did and remind your stepson that nothing is private on the internet and a number of persons have gotten into trouble over pictures like these. Remember that Weiner guy?


  • leegirl_jm
    May 4, 2013 at 11:01 AM

    Anthony Weiner, a former US Representative.

    Quoting Anonymous:

    I did make sure he was aware of once it is out there it is there for good. I also let him no that there are laws about sending naked pictures and he could find himself in alot of trouble with the law.

    Who is the weiner guy?

    Quoting leegirl_jm:

    I think you did and remind your stepson that nothing is private on the internet and a number of persons have gotten into trouble over pictures like these. Remember that Weiner guy?



  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    May 4, 2013 at 11:05 AM
    Also inform them they can get into serious trouble for what they did. Technically they were sharing child pornography because of their ages.
  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous - Original Poster
    May 4, 2013 at 11:09 AM

    I let them no that also. I made my ss look up the laws regarding sexting and what punishment he could be looking at getting.

    Quoting Anonymous:

    Also inform them they can get into serious trouble for what they did. Technically they were sharing child pornography because of their ages.


  • Tinkerbellmama
    May 4, 2013 at 11:18 AM

    He was a politician who sent pictures of himself to a girl on facebook, he also accidentally posted pictures on twitter. Ruined his career.

    Since both your SS and his girlfriend are under 18, any computer with naked pictures of them now contains child porn, and the legal owner of that computer (you, DH, or your SS's girlfriend's parents) need to be REALLY careful...


    Quoting Anonymous:

    I did make sure he was aware of once it is out there it is there for good. I also let him no that there are laws about sending naked pictures and he could find himself in alot of trouble with the law.

    Who is the weiner guy?

    Quoting leegirl_jm:

    I think you did and remind your stepson that nothing is private on the internet and a number of persons have gotten into trouble over pictures like these. Remember that Weiner guy?




  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    May 4, 2013 at 11:31 AM

    I think you did a great job with the girl' however, since they are both minors I think you should inform the girls parents.  

  • packermomof2
    May 4, 2013 at 11:59 AM

    I'd hav e gone to the parents. 

  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous - Original Poster
    May 4, 2013 at 2:32 PM

    bump

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