My step son is 8 and I have 3 kids and me and my husband have a son together. I love my step son to death but there are times he comes over and he is so mean to me. I think some times my husband treats him different then other kids but he don't see it. My step son gets away with so much more then the rest of our kids. I really don't know what to do or think my husband just gets mad when I talk to him about it. What should I do?
My daughter has been a raging ball of hormones and meanness today. It is very out of character for her. I've had to put her to bed twice this weekend and I rarely ever have to do that. Kids go through phases. I wouldn't take it personally.
Is he just "mean" to you? Or the other kids as well? What does he do that is mean? How often is he there?
If it is just you that he is mean to, maybe you need to find an activity for the two of u to bond.
I thought my Dh was mad when I talked to him about things. But eventually he told me he is just as frustrated with my sd's behavior as I am. He hated talking about it because he felt like he didn't know what to do anymore. They share 50/50 and he feels like as long as SD goes back and forth and as long as bm is slack as a parent(his words) he doesn't feel it will change. It just keeps getting worse. Everything we do is undone once she goes back to bm.
Just me. I will ask him to.do something like to get dressed or pick a toy. He talks back. Or last weekend when we had me he wouldn't eat his breakfast cause he said his dad will go buy him breakfast. Like I said I love him like he was one of my own that I give birth to but I don't like how he acts towards me.
I had a counselor tell me boys are the meanest at 4th and 5th grade. My son was 9 then.. so I am still working through it. He had the attitude he didnt have to listen to no one. Just keep letting him know whats not appropriate. Dont expect anyone else to do it for you. My DS has learned what he can get away with and from whom. He is 8.. he needs to be respectful it does not mean because he has a bm that he can treat adults like that. I would ask him the next time he is mean to you "do you talk to your teacher like that?" I bet he says no.. because he knows its not allowed. He gets away with it at home. The teacher if the boy spoke to her in a mean way wouldnt really run to the principal she would address it directly and put the child back in his place. Kids need to learn respect.. by allowing it at home is promoting the behavior.