When we dropped off SS yesterday, Bm looked like she was sick. DH asked if she was ok. She told him she had surgery last week. She apparently got her tubes tied.
First I was shocked that she didn't text DH. She tends to be in the hospital alot and use to text him all hours of the night, talking about how bored she was. So woot, one impressed point for that.
My other reason for being impressed is because Dh made the comment, 'Really, I thought you wanted more kids?' (Really Dh? You can't complain later that she talked for a while after that.) Well BM replied that she use to, but she realized that she really just needs to focus on being a mom to SS. She has made a lot of mistakes with him and has a lot to make up for. She said she doesn't want SS to ever feel she loves another child more then him and she thinks if she ever had another one, she would have to explain why she has custody of one kid and not him. I am very impressed she gave up her desire to have more kids for the sake of wanting to be the best mom for SS.
I really hope she keeps this attitude. Since Dh has made the decision to try overnights, its been rocky, crazy hard, and frustrating, but lately its starting to look better. She has a job now, she is keeping all of her visits, no longer cancelling last minute, no longer texting Dh over anything that doesn't pertain to SS, and just showing she is putting SS first. It makes me happy that she might actually be around in the future and an active positive role.