I have access to BMs fb. This is how I know she got pregnant, was due in January, and also how I know lots of other things we wouldn't know otherwise. (I started looking when I heard rumors of her plans to visit the state but she wasn't making any plans to see SD, a few years ago)...I've used it to just check to see if she is planning to take SD or at least see her or whatever else.
I haven't looked since before Christmas, when I just checked to see if she would be coming 'home' to our state for Christmas at all. She hasn't seen SD in over a year and hasn't called in 10 months.
I want to look bc I'm nosey, but it also pisses me off every time I think about her having ANOTHER baby. Take care of the two you have damnit! And I want a baby damnit! Lol. So just tell me I have no need to look. Remind me that there is no reason and I don't need to be nosey. Or do you think I should look? Would you look?
Eh, it's tough... especially with your situation (sounds like there's kind of a need to know things since you're not in the loop and she's absentee and all). I used to do it with BM, and learned quite a bit, but ultimately I cut myself off b/c I realized how much drama it was stirring up inside me. It wasn't doing me any good... good luck!