I have 3 kids that are not my husbands and i get child support for them and he also has 2 other children that are not mine and then we have one together. he feels like i should use my child support for everyone, including buying him stuff and paying the bills. we always fight about it cause i feel like i should just be spending it onthe 3 kids that its for and he just sees it completly differently from me. i feel like its for my kids, its not new husband and stepkid support its child support for my 3 children. do u spend your child support on your stepkids and husband?
Child support is meant to support the kids. And that means everything from the mortgage to keeping the lights on to putting food on the table and clothes on their backs. Your job as Mom is to make sure that stuff happens for your kids. There's no "rule" about how you have to spend that money. Some of us paying child support sure wish that the money would go towards the kids' needs and not Mom's haircuts, nails and drinks out wiht the girls, but that's not our call.
As long as the kids are being cared for, it is what it is.
Were I in your shoes, I would take a look at the household expenses and budget and work something out that was fair. You've got 6 kids in the house. That support is meant to go towards 3.
I do pay half for bills and half for needs of the child. Its meant for all aspects of caring for the child which does include costs of the roof over their heads and food in their bellies. I also spend some of it on a occational basis on the skids. They are as much my family as my son is. Just my opinion. My son never goes without, never has, regardless of child support.
If this is directed at me, no he doesn't. He pays BM CS (DH shares 50/50 custody of SD) and it hardly ever goes to SD. He sees that and it upsets him. He would never ask me to spend my CS on anything other than my kids.