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hayliedlr
The doctor just assumed that......
November 28, 2012 at 8:12 AM

.....my children have multiple fathers.  I went in for an appt for depression and when she was asking me questions she asked if I was a single mother. I said yes.  She asked how many kids do I have and I said four. Then she asked if I get support from any of the fathers.  My mouth just dropped.  I have never had a doctor just assume that.  Usually they will ask about a father and if you want to offer up any more information then you as a patient will do that.


Also before that I had told the nurse don't mind my hair (I was embarrassed because I put this leave-in conditioner in my hair and it made my hair greasy) so I just mentioned that to the nurse so she didn't just think I didn't shower (I am very self conscious) and she said she didn't notice anything other than it being super shiny but "I don't ever put stuff like that in my hair because I'm educated".  I don't really know why she had to say that. 

I don't think there was ever a time when I was offended by something to trivial but this made me think.


EDIT: Yes they all have the same dad (the title is continued with the first sentence of the op) and I am still married.  I put on the paper work that I was separated

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  • Paperfishies
    November 28, 2012 at 8:15 AM
    Find a new doctor.

    Because she's "educated"? What does that even mean?
  • offrdngal
    November 28, 2012 at 8:16 AM

     I would start looking for a new doctor.  Obviously the doctor and staff are snobs and need to learn people skills.

  • hayliedlr
    November 28, 2012 at 8:22 AM

    and this was a new doctor, not going back there though that's for sure

  • sjump25
    by sjump25
    November 28, 2012 at 8:32 AM

    Oh wow!  The nerve of the nurse AND the dr!  The nurse obviously isn't educated in people skills and the dr. should be ashamed of herself.  I would be calling some higher ups.  That is not right.

  • Mena929
    by Mena929
    November 28, 2012 at 8:59 AM

    Time for a new doctor.

  • AmberRose1122
    November 28, 2012 at 9:01 AM
    Educated? I assume she's a medical assistant, which you don't have to be very educated to become. What a bit*h.
  • banana-bear
    November 28, 2012 at 9:01 AM
    I'm not buying the "I'm educated" comment.
  • Gingerella
    November 28, 2012 at 9:05 AM

    Me either but as to the first part...I think it's kinda valid. Not receiving any support as a single Mother can be pretty depressing IMO. 

    Quoting banana-bear:

    I'm not buying the "I'm educated" comment.


  • anotherandree
    November 28, 2012 at 9:05 AM

    Wow.  I find the irony in that you were going in for depression and they were THAT insensitive.  Yikes.  Bye-bye doctor!

  • mjimaging
    November 28, 2012 at 9:06 AM
    Financial strain is often a source for depression so I am not sure I'd be that put off by the doc. But the nurses comment would have bothered me more.

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