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abuckalew
im loving/hating homeschool...rant
October 26, 2013 at 12:01 PM
im loving/hating homeschool...rantroup due to wanting to homeschool my 9yo dd. And somehow I picked up another child :/. My aunt/sitter when I do work now as custody of her granddaughter who needs more help than my dd (she's 11). I would feel bad to say no, but now I have 2 extra mouths to feed and they havent bought one thing to help with school! I diligently went out and bought my dd what she needed (curriculum) and they want me to teach my lil cousin what in teaching my daughter.....which means they haven't bought work books or anything. So now I have to make copies of my daughter's workbooks. Im so irritated right now! I have constantly asked for my aunt and uncle to buy her the workbooks and even said to ask her son to send her child support but that's a whole other story. Now we can't do all the science experiments cuz I have to buy double cuz they can't afford it! I'm thisclose to telling them to go back to public school but I don't want to break this little girls heart or lose my sitter (who babysits for free now). I feel like I have a milillion things to say but can't get them out!

Besides the previous statement I love teaching my daughter, I just wish I could work more :/

UPDATE:
My aunt doesn't watch my 2yo dd and 1yo dd 5 days a week. She will take them a bath in the morning and after breakfast she will go visit with my gma or just sit and watch tv while my girls pull at ky legs for milk, cookies, snacks, etc. Even if I tell her toget it she won't always do it. It's easier for me to just do it. And she's only watching my girls for free when I do work. That's only been 3 days in 2.5 weeks. And she only watched them 2 of the days cuz one day was a sat.

Also I've also asked her plenty of times to bring food. They eat breakfast and lunch at my house and sometimes a snack. I know its just food. But I have 5 kids to feed with only my dh working full time its not easy to just buy for 2 more ppl. I have told her about 5 times to apply for PA but she's unsure if she wants to finish the process cuz they are asking about CS and need my cousins other aunt to call them....she says its too much trouble. I straight told her well, giving up isnt gonna feed anyone or make it easier for you and your dh.

And, i did tell her that they needed to provid half of the supplies for experiments and buy work books before I agreed to HS her grand daughter. I even got online WITH her there to price them. She said they. Were but I've brought it up plenty of times nd now She says she doesn't know when they are gonna be able to pitch in or buy work books.

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  • kirbymom
    October 26, 2013 at 7:27 PM
    Sometimes it is better to take the high road when it cones to situations like these. At least for a short time anyways. Maybe by doing so, your aunt and them will see the sacrifices you are trying
    to make and pitch in some of their own accord.

    Quoting abuckalew:

    I don't need a sitter very often. I will only be working about 3 days a week and I know most of my days will be weekends so she will only be watching my girls 1 day a week on average


    Quoting kirbymom:Maybe you could ask if they could help buy some of the loose leaf paper or the pencils or erasers when they can? Just to offset the expense every now and then.
    How often do you need a babysitter? Is it every day?



  • KickButtMama
    October 26, 2013 at 8:42 PM

    I sort of agree. For a short time, while they maybe get their lives established, you can let it slide. Ask for grocery gift cards for Christmas. Then sit down with them rationally and explain that you are stressing financially as well and everyone needs to find a balance. 

    If you (OP) are going to resent them for imposing on you, then tell them it's a no go. It's better to save relationships than to bottle in the negativity.

    Quoting kirbymom:

    Sometimes it is better to take the high road when it cones to situations like these. At least for a short time anyways. Maybe by doing so, your aunt and them will see the sacrifices you are trying
    to make and pitch in some of their own accord.

    Quoting abuckalew:

    I don't need a sitter very often. I will only be working about 3 days a week and I know most of my days will be weekends so she will only be watching my girls 1 day a week on average


    Quoting kirbymom:Maybe you could ask if they could help buy some of the loose leaf paper or the pencils or erasers when they can? Just to offset the expense every now and then.
    How often do you need a babysitter? Is it every day?




  • KrissyKC
    October 26, 2013 at 10:06 PM

    You realize that if you have two girls to be babysat, you would be paying a home daycare approximately $30-40 per day to keep your girls.   Granted, that would be about 1-2 days per week, but that's saving you $30-60 weekly.   (assuming it's over 5 hours at a time which is what daycares consider a full day and charge for the full day rate)... plus they are feeding two girls 1-2 times a week.

    I think your deal is a little more fair than you might consider.   You might ask them to send over a few of her favorite snack foods, fruits, etc...  but otherwise, it's pretty fair.   Of course, you aren't getting PAID to teach her, but the actual stuff you are out is about equivalent to 1-2 days of your girls being babysat.


  • abuckalew
    October 26, 2013 at 11:43 PM
    I would almost agree but she watches my girls in my home, where she feeds them and herself. I have no issue with that when I'm working.


    Quoting KrissyKC:

    You realize that if you have two girls to be babysat, you would be paying a home daycare approximately $30-40 per day to keep your girls.   Granted, that would be about 1-2 days per week, but that's saving you $30-60 weekly.   (assuming it's over 5 hours at a time which is what daycares consider a full day and charge for the full day rate)... plus they are feeding two girls 1-2 times a week.

    I think your deal is a little more fair than you might consider.   You might ask them to send over a few of her favorite snack foods, fruits, etc...  but otherwise, it's pretty fair.   Of course, you aren't getting PAID to teach her, but the actual stuff you are out is about equivalent to 1-2 days of your girls being babysat.



  • abuckalew
    October 26, 2013 at 11:46 PM
    I guess I just feel like she's not holding up her end of the bargain. I told her there was things that needed to be agreed upon in order to do this and I feel like I'm the only one holding my end of it up :( sry to argue with yall and be like Well you said this but this is what I think.
  • mem82
    by mem82
    October 27, 2013 at 8:35 AM

    This sounds like a difficult situation. 8(

  • paganbaby
    October 28, 2013 at 1:35 AM

    Agreed.

    Quoting KickButtMama:

    I sort of agree. For a short time, while they maybe get their lives established, you can let it slide. Ask for grocery gift cards for Christmas. Then sit down with them rationally and explain that you are stressing financially as well and everyone needs to find a balance. 

    If you (OP) are going to resent them for imposing on you, then tell them it's a no go. It's better to save relationships than to bottle in the negativity.

    Quoting kirbymom:

    Sometimes it is better to take the high road when it cones to situations like these. At least for a short time anyways. Maybe by doing so, your aunt and them will see the sacrifices you are trying
    to make and pitch in some of their own accord.

    Quoting abuckalew:

    I don't need a sitter very often. I will only be working about 3 days a week and I know most of my days will be weekends so she will only be watching my girls 1 day a week on average


    Quoting kirbymom:Maybe you could ask if they could help buy some of the loose leaf paper or the pencils or erasers when they can? Just to offset the expense every now and then.
    How often do you need a babysitter? Is it every day?





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