Homeschooling Moms

MetalMamaTo3
Not Homeschooling yet, need advice!
September 3, 2013 at 5:22 PM

My daughter has been HORRIBLE in her classroom and on the bus, and quite frankly, I am at my wit's end. I've asked her teacher via email and written note to tell me exactly what she's doing so I can correct it, any advice, tips, etc. Her teacher has not communicated or even offered to communicate in any way, and my daughter is NOT thriving in school. I know we are only three weeks in, but her behavior at home has been greatly affected as well. She already knows the things being taught, and I feel she is very bored. And she's looking at being kicked off the bus as well. She's on the bus for about an hour. I don't want the stigma of her being a 'problem child' to follow her around forever. So I would rather take her out, work on her following directions, and teach her at home. I feel like an absolute failure, not because I think homeschool is the only route at this point, but because I expected her to do better. We have NEVER had this many problems with her, and she is getting a note sent home every single day.
With that being said, I need advice on affordable homeschool. I would prefer secular, but slight religious theme is okay as well.

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  • kirbymom
    September 3, 2013 at 5:29 PM
    Aww - That must be very frustrating for both you and your daughter. There are several different styles if homeschooling out there. Do you know which one you would like to start with? Also, have you checks with your states home schools laws yet?
  • hwblyf
    by hwblyf
    September 3, 2013 at 5:31 PM

    I had those same fears.  I didn't take my son out of ps until middle of 4th grade, and that was because he had used all his suspension days before having to elevate meetings to the district level.  And maybe I should have fought the district and the school, made them look at the situation in a different light, but I didn't have that in me, nor do I believe my son did.  Being at home is awesome for him.  He needs more than the ps can provide, he feels more secure at home, and the problems that we have are here one minute and gone the next.  There's not a series of meetings and discussions that make things worse rather than better.  And honestly, by 4th grade, kids are more aware that he was problematic for the adults.  That makes me sad.

    Find out what she would be learning in school and assemble books from the library.  I like Life of Fred math books (not at my library), and there are tons of science experiment books to go through.  What grade is your daughter?

  • MetalMamaTo3
    September 3, 2013 at 5:42 PM

    No homeschool law other than enrolling with a 'church homeschool/umbrella school'.

  • romacox
    by romacox
    September 3, 2013 at 6:21 PM

    Welcome Metamamato3.  Many of us here know how you feel.  As a home school workshop leader, I put the following free web page to answer many questions about How To Home School 

  • Bleacheddecay
    September 3, 2013 at 7:28 PM

    You didn't say what grade your child is?

    If they have been in public or private school I highly recommend de-schooling.

    http://www.livingjoyfully.ca/unschooling/getting_started/what_is_deschooling.htm

    Here are my best best tips!

    1. Look up your state laws. Make sure you are in compliance. I like this site rather than HSLDA

    http://homeschooling.gomilpitas.com/directory/Legalities.htm

    2. Decide what your mutual goals for the future of your student are, high school degree, GED, college and so on.

    3. Find out your student's best learning styles. I'd use POC4U to aide this.

    http://www.edudps.com/poc4u.html

    4. Research ways to do an education along with your teen. I recommend The Teenage Liberation Handbook.

    5. Pick out curriculum (if any)  WITH your student. I do not recommend buying a full curriculum the first year. It tends to lead to frustration and a waste of money.

    6. Be flexible, expect change.

    7. Locate local groups and resources.

    8. Don't forget to make it fun, relax now and then, just enjoy each other.

    9. Be sure to keep your student in touch with any friends they really want to spend time with and which you do not feel are a really bad influence.

    And finally, relax, relax, relax. The very best thing you can do is de-school. Let your students find what their are passions and pursue them.

    I have one that has won a four year academic scholarship and one that has won a renewable athletic scholarship. That's only my student athlete's first college visit and offer. There are more offers to come.

    Stressing over making your child learn or doing what the public or private schools are doing or doing enough won't help you or them. I wish someone had told me that when I began and that I could have wrapped my head around it and believed it.

    Love them. Like them. Trust them. Support their dreams even when you don't like or understand what they are. This is the best gift you can give anyone. It's also a gift that will allow them to do things that will impress you over the years.

    BD

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