For those that don't know, my dd has
Selective Mutism and Social Phobia and we are trying to help her
overcome some of her fears and anxieties. By no means am I trying to get
her back into the school setting, but since they do offer certain
classes to homeschoolers, I thought we would try it out. I think one
thing that scared my daughter was while we were sitting out in the
hallway, two girls came past us, both very tall (I actually thought one
of them was a high schooler, but she wasn't). My daughter said, "I am
going to be one of the shortest people here". She is short, but would
not be the shortest, but that is her fear. She will stand out and that
is something that Selective Mutes do not like doing. One of the reasons
they don't talk is so they can kind of blend in to the crowd without
Just wish we could find
she could do and enjoy. She has a hard time expressing herself in words
really don't know what things she would like to do. I just needed to
talk about it. I feel so bad because she wants friends, she wants to be
included, but this darn SM is keeping her from doing it. She does so
great with online people. Wish I could find her a online club for kids
where all they had to do was chat, play games and hang out.
Why not give her a year of private lessons (if you can afford it) and THEN put her in band so she starts already knowing how to blow into and play the instrument a little. Gives her the opportunity to have the group and social activity be new while not ALSO having just getting used to the instrument as a new experience, too.
Have her play Minecraft or World of Warcraft they have online chatting & you can pick a server to join that is kid oriented or kid friendly. Also Jumpstart.com has chatting for the kids & games. Have you looked into classes at a community center where she can be around such a large divers group of people to see that being different from others out in the real world is very much the norm.
May 9, 2013 at 1:54 AM
how about getting her into a writing club, then she can express her self, and how she feels, but she doesn't have to talk about it - she can just write about it and share it with you if she wants, or not share if she wants - but she is still getting it out