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MamaAjax
Home schooling and I'm clueless. Updated
April 23, 2013 at 12:19 AM

My fears with my son were confirmed well before he even entered school. While I was working and he was in daycare. The center was all about school readiness. I was constantly being called in for "developmental delays" in his play. He wouldn't "play" cooking. Didn't like to "play" house. He didn't  "play talk" on the phone. He didn't even play with these types of toys or show interest in them. By the time he was in VPK (age 4) he was doing well with certain aspects, but was falling significantly behind in the writing and reading. He flat out refused to do his Kindergarten readiness exam at the age 5. I went around and around with the school board. They said I had "No logical reason" to withhold him from Kindergarten. My only option was home school or public school. I was a single working mom. What was I to do?  I didn't think he was ready at all. His birthday is May 27th. School here starts the very first week of August. I just didn't feel he was ready.

He nearly failed Kindergarten. They passed him because his Math abilities are extraordinary. He was working in 2nd grade math. Now in first grade his favorite thing is the times tables, and I'm not talking 2x2 he's into his 7s and 8s now. He likes fractions and he thinks gemometry is cool. His reading and writing are dragging him down. He's just now testing into first grade level and it's almost the end of the year. He hates school. He's begging me to take him out. They keep him from recess so he can have extra time on his classwork. My curious and eager to learn child is quickly shutting down on me. They've been testing him for two years to develop and I.E.P. plan for him. 

Now that I'm married I'm able to be a SAHM. But I'm in college. There's a place here called O2BKids. that he's in. He loves it. He does dance, gymnastics, karate, and his favorite thing is the rock wall that he can climb. They've got a small home school program where the kids meet once a week. They have science classes and art classes. Really big on the hands on things. And during the summer camp program they take field trips that include Swimming, Parks, Skating, Bowling, Movies, Rock Climbing, Zoo, Springs, and other such things. They also have O2B Expeditions, an optional part of Camp O2B to theme parks like Disney’s Animal Kingdom, Wild Adventures, and Wild Waters. Which we did last year and he got to go to Sea World for an "Educational Tour" and really got to get hands on. Which is what now has him raving about being a Marine Biologist. He's old enough to be on the campus by him self and during the summer that's no problem there's lot of kids there all the time. However during the school year, until the after school program starts there's really no kids his age there. It's mostly for the little kids 0-5 and the Mommy & Me groups. So I don't know how well it would work out me sending him there during the hours of my classes.




I'd love to home school him, and I've looked and looked and looked online. I don't know any home school moms around here. And the moms I do know approach the idea of home schooling like it's something from the Middle Ages.

Most of the programs I am finding are religion linked. Not a route I am wanting to take. We're Buddhists.

I don't even know if I can home school while being a full time student. Advice. Resources. Anything would be really appreciated.



---UPDATE---

Thank you all so much.

Thanks to the suggestion of using a secular school that would be able to incorporate our religious beliefs (which I never even thought was possible since, I'll be honest, I was under the close minded assumption that private schools--including private home school programs--meant some sect of Christian teachings.) we found that Global Village School really fitted what my husband and I are considering. I've already called them and spoke to their consultant, also they're sending me more information in a packet. 

My next step is transferring to the O2B Kids there and networking with local moms once we move and get settled into our new city, which frankly has me terrified. 

Replies

  • mommy4lyf
    April 23, 2013 at 1:08 AM
    This might help you http://www.homeschoolfacts.com/pages/index.php/Where_to_Begin
    If it's not clickable just copy and paste it on your browser. I am not using my computer right now.
  • romacox
    by romacox
    April 23, 2013 at 6:06 AM

    There are secular groups , and secular curriculum.  If you can't find them, create them.  Here is an article to help you.  How To Home School

    Following is a "hands on learning style"  language arts curriculum/ board game.  Ring Around The Phonics..  children love  it, and get excited about crowning their character with the blue and gold rings of knowledge.  The activity cards help release energy to help them focus, but they also teach comprehension. It is learning disguised as a game, and comes with 14 early reader books.  

    The Florida Parent Educators Association provides this link to help you find groups near you. 

  • amandae21
    April 23, 2013 at 9:47 AM

    Have you had him evaluated by any early intervention specialists outside of the school system?

  • KrissyKC
    April 23, 2013 at 10:09 AM

    If you homeschool and join a homeschooling group, depending on the hours you attend school, you might be able to find a hsing teen or other mother that would keep him for you during college.   That sounds like a terrific solution, especially if it's another mother because you would have an automatic "mentor" for HSing.

    It really is seriosly doable.   You WILL have a more difficult time finding secular HSing groups, but they are out there.    Have you considered posting an add for other secular or non-religious homeschooling families... say at the library or something?

    Maybe there is even another family that needs to send their child to a place like O2Bkids, and the kids would keep eachother company.

    Another option is to juggle him with family, friends, see if SO can work his schedule around some... etc.




  • oredeb
    by oredeb
    April 23, 2013 at 10:38 AM

    welcome mamajax,

     find out your hs law first, are you a full time student? if your gona hs him you need to be there to teach him, so will hsing interfer with your college?

    so is he in first grade? or going into second? when you hs him you can put him in different grades for each subject, he doesnt have to stay in the second grade for all subjects,

    what about this site http://www.enkieducation.org/html/homeschool-curriculum.htm

    http://familydharma.pulelehuadesign.com/hslinks.htm

    http://www.zenhomeschool.org/

    what are you wanting to work on with him?

     

  • MamaAjax
    April 23, 2013 at 2:33 PM


    Yes, I've had three different people evaluate him. The first came back as ADHD. I refuted this which is what led me to the other two. He's just to calm and he's able to focus his attention no problem. He's never been a behavioral problem and all his teachers come to me saying "How polite he is." "He's so helpful." "He's really big on doing the responsible thing."

    He'll sit and read, he's just super slow at it and spends so much time on sounding out the words that he doesn't comprehend what he's reading.

    The second one told me "Absolutely nothing is wrong, he just has low self-esteem." I'll buy it. The self-esteem part anyways. Even his school psychologist said she's "Never seen a kid his age worry so much about grades like he does." He hates failing. He hates it when he doesn't get something right the first time. I think mainly because Math comes so easy to him and so does science he expects EVERYTHING to be that easy and he'll just beat himself up when it isn't.  

    The third one said he's fine and came up with sending him to a speech specialist. Which is probable. He's had ear infections from the age of three months old. He got his first set of tubes at 9months old. I had to go around and around with his insurance to get a new type of tubes put in because the first one just didn't help. They said it was an "elective" surgery. We finally won our case when our ENT Dr. Stepped in and demanded it citing research during the hearing. He finally got the new type of tubes and had his adenoids removed. Problem solved. They tested his hearing and it's back in normal ranges for his age just now he's really sensitive to sounds. This was last year.    

    Quoting amandae21:

    Have you had him evaluated by any early intervention specialists outside of the school system?



  • MamaAjax
    April 23, 2013 at 2:43 PM


    Thank you very much for these links. I am very interested Ring Around The Phonics. We play lots of board games at home. Domino's is his favorite, Husband and I love scrabble. So this board game seems right up our alley. 

    Quoting romacox:

    There are secular groups , and secular curriculum.  If you can't find them, create them.  Here is an article to help you.  How To Home School

    Following is a "hands on learning style"  language arts curriculum/ board game.  Ring Around The Phonics..  children love  it, and get excited about crowning their character with the blue and gold rings of knowledge.  The activity cards help release energy to help them focus, but they also teach comprehension. It is learning disguised as a game, and comes with 14 early reader books.  

    The Florida Parent Educators Association provides this link to help you find groups near you. 



  • amandae21
    April 23, 2013 at 2:50 PM

    Some kids just don't fit the public school mold. That's the beauty of homeschool. We don't have to emulate the public school in our homes. We can teach whatever we want, however we want (assuming you aren't in one of those hart-to-HS-in states).

    My DD has problems with math. If I give her a worksheet with 20 simple problems on it, she'll take over an hour to complete it. If I write 3-4 problems on the whiteboard at a time, it's a breeze. I could put 20 simple addition problems on paper and she'd still have anxiety. When she was in PS, she would spend over an hour crying over one simple math homework sheet.

    You can homeschool. It doesn't have to be during school hours. It can be whenever you want it to be. Could you afford to connect with another homeschool family and have them keep DS during the day, maybe have him complete some of his assignments there?

    Here's a website for finding such families: http://parentsforliberty.org/connect


    Quoting MamaAjax:


    Yes, I've had three different people evaluate him. The first came back as ADHD. I refuted this which is what led me to the other two. He's just to calm and he's able to focus his attention no problem. He's never been a behavioral problem and all his teachers come to me saying "How polite he is." "He's so helpful." "He's really big on doing the responsible thing."

    He'll sit and read, he's just super slow at it and spends so much time on sounding out the words that he doesn't comprehend what he's reading.

    The second one told me "Absolutely nothing is wrong, he just has low self-esteem." I'll buy it. The self-esteem part anyways. Even his school psychologist said she's "Never seen a kid his age worry so much about grades like he does." He hates failing. He hates it when he doesn't get something right the first time. I think mainly because Math comes so easy to him and so does science he expects EVERYTHING to be that easy and he'll just beat himself up when it isn't.  

    The third one said he's fine and came up with sending him to a speech specialist. Which is probable. He's had ear infections from the age of three months old. He got his first set of tubes at 9months old. I had to go around and around with his insurance to get a new type of tubes put in because the first one just didn't help. They said it was an "elective" surgery. We finally won our case when our ENT Dr. Stepped in and demanded it citing research during the hearing. He finally got the new type of tubes and had his adenoids removed. Problem solved. They tested his hearing and it's back in normal ranges for his age just now he's really sensitive to sounds. This was last year.    

    Quoting amandae21:

    Have you had him evaluated by any early intervention specialists outside of the school system?





  • MamaAjax
    April 23, 2013 at 3:06 PM

    I'm going to be a full-time student. My classes are hybrids since I am a student with disabilities. I only spend about an hour in the class then the rest is online and can be done at the school computer labs or at my home. I'll only be in classes even at full time about 6-8hours a week.

    I don't think HS would interfere to much into college classes, my classes are always more towards the afternoon. The issue is the gap between my first class which starts around 12pm-1pm and the fact that after school starts at 3pm here. I have looked into it and seen that most home schoolers really do about 4-5 hours on school work a day versus the traditional 7hours + daily home work with public schools.

    I'm not so worried until my fall semester because Summer Camp at O2B is an all day thing. So this is really months and months away in my concerns. I'm just trying to get all my ducks in a row before Husband and I really come to a decision.  

    I don't know with the grade. So far his school says it's like this. "If he's tested for a learning issue than he'll pass and we'll make accommodations for him in his areas of weakness." So it really is dependent on the schools findings to if he'll pass first grade or not.

    I really have no issue with traditional learning style, but his areas of strength to weakness seem to extreme in their differences. 

    Thank you for the links, I never even thought to look into if there was a learning school programs that actually incorporated our faith.

    Quoting oredeb:

    welcome mamajax,

     find out your hs law first, are you a full time student? if your gona hs him you need to be there to teach him, so will hsing interfer with your college?

    so is he in first grade? or going into second? when you hs him you can put him in different grades for each subject, he doesnt have to stay in the second grade for all subjects,

    what about this site http://www.enkieducation.org/html/homeschool-curriculum.htm

    http://familydharma.pulelehuadesign.com/hslinks.htm

    http://www.zenhomeschool.org/

    what are you wanting to work on with him?

     



  • MamaAjax
    April 23, 2013 at 3:14 PM

    So far what I have gleamed from FL is that unless I fork out for private school and enroll him into one of their Home School programs I really still have to focus more towards the FCAT Standards and follow the same principles as public school. Which I'm loathing to no end.

    Yeah that's my son. He'll just "melt down" and his teacher and I call it. He'll make himself physically ill crying so bad just trying to get him to read 5-6 words repeating over and over in 10-11 lines (it's 5 words per a line and it's the same words over and over). "Beat the Clock" game as they call it. 

    Quoting amandae21:

    Some kids just don't fit the public school mold. That's the beauty of homeschool. We don't have to emulate the public school in our homes. We can teach whatever we want, however we want (assuming you aren't in one of those hart-to-HS-in states).

    My DD has problems with math. If I give her a worksheet with 20 simple problems on it, she'll take over an hour to complete it. If I write 3-4 problems on the whiteboard at a time, it's a breeze. I could put 20 simple addition problems on paper and she'd still have anxiety. When she was in PS, she would spend over an hour crying over one simple math homework sheet.

    You can homeschool. It doesn't have to be during school hours. It can be whenever you want it to be. Could you afford to connect with another homeschool family and have them keep DS during the day, maybe have him complete some of his assignments there?

    Here's a website for finding such families: http://parentsforliberty.org/connect


    Quoting MamaAjax:


    Yes, I've had three different people evaluate him. The first came back as ADHD. I refuted this which is what led me to the other two. He's just to calm and he's able to focus his attention no problem. He's never been a behavioral problem and all his teachers come to me saying "How polite he is." "He's so helpful." "He's really big on doing the responsible thing."

    He'll sit and read, he's just super slow at it and spends so much time on sounding out the words that he doesn't comprehend what he's reading.

    The second one told me "Absolutely nothing is wrong, he just has low self-esteem." I'll buy it. The self-esteem part anyways. Even his school psychologist said she's "Never seen a kid his age worry so much about grades like he does." He hates failing. He hates it when he doesn't get something right the first time. I think mainly because Math comes so easy to him and so does science he expects EVERYTHING to be that easy and he'll just beat himself up when it isn't.  

    The third one said he's fine and came up with sending him to a speech specialist. Which is probable. He's had ear infections from the age of three months old. He got his first set of tubes at 9months old. I had to go around and around with his insurance to get a new type of tubes put in because the first one just didn't help. They said it was an "elective" surgery. We finally won our case when our ENT Dr. Stepped in and demanded it citing research during the hearing. He finally got the new type of tubes and had his adenoids removed. Problem solved. They tested his hearing and it's back in normal ranges for his age just now he's really sensitive to sounds. This was last year.    

    Quoting amandae21:

    Have you had him evaluated by any early intervention specialists outside of the school system?







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