So, I still trying to find a clever, nice-nasty response to all the socializtion questions. Even my friends and family members who are teachers and witness the horrible treatment of student by classmates and even their teachers claim they are better off in this environment.
Please give me your BEST response to someone implying your child(ren) will be weird if they don't attend conventional school.
I encourage my children to be wearied & different because those are the people that change the world & our world is in desperate need of change! I have never had to say it but it is the best I have come up with that I think will shut most peoples up!
For one thing weird is subjective. Weird to one person may not be weird to someone else. I homeschool for social reasons. (among others) I want my kids to have different experiences and actually be able to experience the world. I want them to have choices. Sitting in one room every day all day is not socialization. My kids love homeschooling and being able to experience the world as often as we like. There is no educational system with as much freedom that homeschooling gives a parent and child.
If I had the guts, I would probably tell them that I am a social misfit ( very shy) and I went to school all my life! My kids are the same way. I just pulled them out of school last year and they are still as shy as anything. My kids actually learned how to misbehave by going to school. They were sweet to me till I put them in school. Then when I put them in school they started mouthing off to me. Notice I said if I had the guts. I have a hard time standing up to people. I can do it in writing though!
Simple, I tell them the definition of socialization ("acontinuingprocesswherebyanindividualacquiresapersonalidentityandlearnsthenorms,values,behavior,andsocial skillsappropriatetohisorhersocialposition.") and then ask them how homeschooling prevents that from happening. I then tell them that what they really mean is socialize ("toassociateorminglesociablywith others:") and I don't want my children socializing with only kids their age. I want socializing to happen with all age brackets, with all types of people, and in all types of settings and a school cannot provide that, not even close. Homeschooling is actually better for that aspect of learning.
Who says public school is the right way to socialize your children? That's usually my come back. My oldest was very shy and she was in PS for 3 years. It didn't help her, home schooling actually gave her a chance to come out of her shell. She is more social now than she was when she was in PS.
It is funny how that is the go to question when someone finds out my girls are home schooled. They don't ask me about curriculum, or if I'm "qualified" nope it the socialization aspect. I don't get it. It's ingrained in children to socialize even the most shy kids, and believe me I have one of those shy kids, can socialize. Why does it come down to that. I'd worry about the mom/dad not doing their job and that would be to make sure the kids are leaning something, I could care less if they are "socialized".
If my girls got any more socializing they'd burn out! If anyone said my girls didn't know how to act in public because they are home schooled they are crazy.
"Oh no. After much discussion and research we've decided to not socialize our children. It is hard keeping them in the closet all the time (separate closets of course!) but it will be worth it in the long run."