oh I have actually had someone say to someone else right in front of me that "they don't get out much". People and their silly judgements. My kids are very young and yet they have experienced more than I did all growing up and I was in public school.
Most of what I've gotten is "what about friends and sports?" It infuriates me because, is that really why Americans send their kids to school these days? To have lots of friends and play in school sports.
My long term friends were usually from church, and there are city teams for sports where the kid gets lots more meaningful playing time than in a short school season anyway.
I want my kids to be challenged academically, and have the opportunity to learn in the way that's best for them.
I had to laugh last night. I had D with me at a church concert and right after someone made the socializing comment about ten people stopped to speak to him. The commenter was pretty surprised he has a church fan club lol.
We haven't had thos comments in a LONG time. My kids get out and go rollerskating twice a week. They have an art class every other week and currently they are enrolled in swimming lessons that take place twice a week. My kids don't lack for socialization. They have friends that range in age from 3 1/2 to like the age of 14. Some are HS, PS and some are private schooled. It really depends on where they are and what they are doing. My kids can take a vacation when we want and learn along the way. LOL My kids are socialized. We are even going to a party tonight where there will be atleast 2 socially awkward kids.....and they are PS'd. I don't want to hear any crap about HS'd kids being socially awkward. LOL
One of the moms here on Cafe Mom gave me a good answer to that.
The definition for socialization: 1. a continuing process whereby an individual acquires a personal identity and learns the norms, values, behavior, and social skills appropriate to his or her social position. 2. the act or process of making socialistic (socialism): the socialization of industry.
(links are provided so that you can confirm that it is true)
Look up the definition of 'socialization' and memorize it, then quote it back to everyone who says it. Or start offering pamphlets with the dozens of activities available to homeschoolers in your area. My dad, who wasnt opposed to me homeschooling but just knew nothing about it, was shocked when I told him about all the different stuff I can put my kids in when they get old enough. (my oldest is only four) I presented such a positive case that in an hour I had turned him from concerned (due, again, to lack of knowledge by his own admission) about my boys' chances in the future, to a homeschooling advocate. It was pretty funny. :-)
The only reason that socialization is even being touted as the number one issue that homeschoolers face, is because if the child(ren) are at home getting their education, they can not be at school and being tought conformity. And when you have conformity, you have obedience to the system. And there you have the issue with homeschoolers. They can not be conformed. They are individuals with individual thinking. Homeschoolers are taught how to come up with solutions on their own and not wait and rely on a group to do it for them.
Homeschooled children are independant, self-reliant and innovative thinkers who rely on their own intuitive ideas and solutions to make things happen. For themselves and those around them. (society at large)