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Jrmommy032213
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March 28, 2013 at 3:17 AM

How do you know when you man doesn't love you or want you anymore?What are the signs?

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  • MomToovey
    March 28, 2013 at 11:17 PM

     I'd like to recommend a couple books to you: The Five Love Languages, The Love Dare, and The Power of a Praying Wife - you don't need to be religious (or even married) for this book to work wonders in your relationship, it's designed for women who are alone in trying to make their relationship work.

    On top of that, I'd talk with him. Let him know (without accusing or playing the victim) how you're being led to feel. Maybe the two of you can discuss your expectations from this relationship and work together to make sure those expectations are met.

  • Jrmommy032213
    March 28, 2013 at 11:23 PM

     thank you a lot I'm going to go get them books tomorrow and were going to go to counseling.

    Quoting MomToovey:

     I'd like to recommend a couple books to you: The Five Love Languages, The Love Dare, and The Power of a Praying Wife - you don't need to be religious (or even married) for this book to work wonders in your relationship, it's designed for women who are alone in trying to make their relationship work.

    On top of that, I'd talk with him. Let him know (without accusing or playing the victim) how you're being led to feel. Maybe the two of you can discuss your expectations from this relationship and work together to make sure those expectations are met.


     

  • jojo_star
    March 29, 2013 at 12:45 AM

    I don't know, my husband is still very much in love with me. 

  • Laronda367
    March 29, 2013 at 2:20 AM

    mmmmmmhhhh.... well i hope things start to shape up though and he starts to pay more attention to you.

    Quoting Jrmommy032213:

     I honestly don't think he cheating he always with me he doesn't go no where but I think the women he watches on them porn video are on his mind. And Ive asked him if he still loves me and he says yes with all his heart that I'm the only one.

    Quoting Laronda367:

    Wow i know it can be hard and confusing thats how i was feeling with My sons father that he started loven the idea Of me and using me but not really giving a fuck... Well i say mabe talk to him because if u two have sex and he still want to go look at porn afterward? Then there is a possibility another woman or women are on his mind.. Have u mentioned or talk to him at all yet??

    Quoting Jrmommy032213:

      I don't think that's it because me and my fiance have been together everyday for almost 2 years literally and everything been great other then his little lies and him sneaking behind my back watching porn.Now its like we fight everyday we don't communicate good at all we Barley have sex and to top it off Friday we had sex and right after words he sneaked off and went and watched porn whats this suppose to mean? He tells me all the time that he loves me but I'm starting to think he loves the idea of me and how much I do for him and how much I'm there for me.




    Quoting Laronda367:

    To much time together can cause issues forsure i know when me and My sons Dad would sit in the house all day everyday with nothing to do him not working and things being stressful it would cause big fights arguments and it would be hard to get along from not getting out and not having that time to rewind and miss eachother...







  • 2lilmamas
    March 29, 2013 at 5:28 AM
    He is just very distant and lack of communication.
  • Babygirl9609
    March 29, 2013 at 5:39 AM
    Yeah I know but I am stupid to stay. I hope that maybe things will change but I dont think they are. Im crying as I write this because I just texted my fiance at work telling him everything I feel. I dont want to be with someone who drinks and treats me bad. I want to be happy and If that means being single then so be it. I am done with the crying and always being sad.

    Quoting Jrmommy032213:

     Awe I'm sorry sweetie I have been in a abusive relationship before now see my fiance does not call me names or anything like that and he never has the only name he has ever called me was bitch. I just feel like things are the same i don't know what to think. and I see your profile picture you are very pretty u could have any man you want leave him get on with your life sweetie don't put up with that he going to continue to hurt you. My second baby dad threw me out of a moving car when I was 5 months pregnant please get out.


    Quoting Babygirl9609:

    Im sorry I have no advice but I know how you feel. My DF is not a porn addict but he has done it before among other things. My situation is a little different cuz hes abusive....I dont feel loved anymore. We agreed to work on things but its like hes good one minute and the next hes distant and mean saying a bunch of hurtful things. If youre not happy, leave. I dont know what to do anymore. In my situation, drinking is the big problem. Then he wants me to be like his personal servant. And yes I feelblike that....I know I dont work but I dont think thats an excuse for him to demand things from me. Ugh....I dont know what to do anymore....I guess ppl really dont change. Sorry for the rant but I hope you figure out what to do.



     

  • cntrdmom
    March 29, 2013 at 5:44 AM
    Well....I know things went great at first being with eachother constantly. But something has changed or has gone on too long. You'll understand this better on the other side of things. If you want I'll share my story, but it's long and I'll need a computer. But I suggest you tell him exactly what you've said here. And he'll say he still loves you and it's all fine. Maybe be defensive. I don't know for sure. But you both have to recognize that something bad is happening and you both have to commit to fix it and do what's necessary. He has to stop watching porn. You have to do whatever is bothering him. And you two have to spend qaulity time together. A little time apart won't hurt but don't depend on 1 thing fixing this. It will take all of that. Put lots of effort back into your relationship. Use help like the love dare or activities for couples to do together.
    The key part is that it will take both of you.
  • kels1023
    March 29, 2013 at 5:47 AM
    If you're in an abusive relationship you need to get out! No woman deserves that and it will only get worse.

    Quoting Babygirl9609:

    Im sorry I have no advice but I know how you feel. My DF is not a porn addict but he has done it before among other things. My situation is a little different cuz hes abusive....I dont feel loved anymore. We agreed to work on things but its like hes good one minute and the next hes distant and mean saying a bunch of hurtful things. If youre not happy, leave. I dont know what to do anymore. In my situation, drinking is the big problem. Then he wants me to be like his personal servant. And yes I feelblike that....I know I dont work but I dont think thats an excuse for him to demand things from me. Ugh....I dont know what to do anymore....I guess ppl really dont change. Sorry for the rant but I hope you figure out what to do.

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