by thatislifeMarch 28, 2013 at 4:59 PM
Have a heart to heart and get the kid out of your bed NOW!
by LicParaMommyMarch 28, 2013 at 6:31 PM
Being a paramedic I understand where your husband is coming from Sometimes you need to remember this job isn't easy. Sometimes you are up for 24 hours at a time. Sometimes you do not run any calls at all and you kill the time by doing laundry and such. That is exactly what my husband and I do. When he gets off and actually gets to try to sleep uninterrupted that is exactly what he wants to do. Sleeping in bed with a bunch of kids isn't going to get the sleep he needs. Remember, for every 24 hours on, you need 24 hours to recuperate. Unfortunately, this is what you get when you marry firemen/paramedics.
by sunflower37March 28, 2013 at 11:23 PM
I would talk to him, and offer to start moving the kids to their own room if that's the issue. Maybe you two just need a little YOU space?
by cmarie82March 28, 2013 at 11:39 PMOk ladies just wanted to give you all an update. We were able to go to counseling today we talked alot about why he has been doing some of the things that bother me... He said he does his laundry at work because #1 he said he is trying to lessen the laundry for me #2 he deals with blood, vomit etc on calls and doesn't want to mix that in with our family laundry. He said he is sleeping on the couch to try to give me more room in the bed with our daughter and so I can Breastfeed at night. Not sure whether or not to buy them all but...... I put our
daughter in her own bed tonight I know it's not going to be easy but I let her fall asleep with me next to her and after she fell asleep I left. I have relaxing piano music playing so hopefully this will be the start of something good! I know it's not going to be easy and once my husband returns to work I'm afraid my anxieties of not having her close by are going to creep up but I am determined to control them! Counseling overall went well. I don't believe that he is seeing someone else. He has been home all month and here pretty much every second aside from grocery store trips. I don't feel that way. I just felt more that we were growing apart. We are going to continue counseling but its hard because I feel like the majority of the changing is on me (getting our daughter out of our bed). I'm gonna give it a go and see what happens! Now, just some pointers on successfully transitioning her to her bed?maybe that's a different thread :) thanks again to all!!!