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Fess up - Did you REALLY want to have sex six weeks after giving birth?
February 27, 2013 at 3:50 PM

I saw this in The Stir - Can you agree?

25 Things Moms Would Rather Do Than Have Sex 6 Weeks After Having a Baby

Posted by Mary Fischer on February 27, 2013 

bubble bathSigh. Sooooooo, can we just go ahead and put it out there that having a baby definitely puts a damper on your sex life? Between being pregnant for nine months, giving birth, and then trying to adjust to life with a newborn, getting back in the saddle again and resuming an active sex life usually isn't a huge priority for new moms.

And that's why it's not the least bit surprising to hear that most new mothers wait longer than six weeks to have sex after their baby arrives. (I said most moms. Jessica Simpson is an exception.)

Yeah, six weeks may be the guideline that most doctors go by as far as how long you have to wait to do the dirty after childbirth, but it's definitely way too soon for plenty of overwhelmed, exhausted, not-feeling-anything-remotely-close-to-sexy mamas. Or at least I know it was for me.

I distinctly remember sitting on the table in my OB-GYN's office at my six-week appointment and her telling me it was ok to have sex again -- to which I reacted by laughing in her face. (Oh, yes I did.)

Having sex was probably the furthest thing from my mind at that time -- to the point where I really can't understand how ANY new mom would rate having sex as being high up on her "to-do" list.

In fact, I can think of 25 things new moms would rather do than have sex.

  1. Sleep (duh).
  2. Shower (alone).
  3. Go to the bathroom without any interruptions.
  4. Get a massage.
  5. Get her hair done.
  6. Get a manicure and pedicure.
  7. Take 10 minutes to book appointments for numbers 4 through 6.
  8. Watch an episode of The Bachelor, Revenge, Grey's Anatomy, insert favorite TV show here -- without having to get up off the couch to tend to the baby.
  9. Take a bath. A lonnnnnggggg, hot bath.
  10. Read a magazine from cover-to-cover.
  11. Read one chapter in a book without falling asleep.
  12. Go to the grocery store alone.
  13. Go to the mall alone.
  14. Go to the movies alone.
  15. Go out to dinner alone.
  16. Go pretty much anywhere alone.
  17. Cook dinner and actually sit down and eat whatever it is she cooked.
  18. Do the dishes/load the dishwasher in the effort of waking up to a clean kitchen.
  19. Pick up clutter and clean the house so she can desperately hold on to the small bit of normalcy she has since the baby arrived.
  20. Call her mom, her best friend, or anyone who doesn't mind listening to incessant crying for no reason.
  21. Take a walk around the neighborhood.
  22. Work out (because losing the baby weight will help bring back her sex drive).
  23. Sit and stare at a blank wall for an hour or two.
  24. Relax on the couch with a couple glasses of wine.
  25. Check Facebook.

What would you rather do than have sex? And how long did you wait to have sex again after you had your baby?


  • shaunaleigh418
    February 27, 2013 at 3:54 PM
    My first I had my check up at 5 weeks and was given the go ahead so we did. My second, we had sex at 4 weeks but I never had a check up. I was ready to go both times!
  • kmt_771
    by kmt_771
    February 27, 2013 at 3:56 PM

     First baby was 4 weeks I was ready and the second baby was 6 weeks, we wanted to but between the NICU and a 2 year old there was no time.

  • littlemrsd
    February 27, 2013 at 4:03 PM

    No, I had a baby 9 months ago & we have only had sex a hand full of times. 

  • elliotmommytobe
    February 27, 2013 at 4:04 PM
    We had sex at 5 weeks cause I begged him lol
  • earthangel1967
    February 27, 2013 at 4:10 PM

     I was nervous it would hurt and I did wait until after go ahead at 6 wk checkup but yes I REALLY wanted to.

  • 2lilmamas
    February 27, 2013 at 4:12 PM
    Even if I wanted we waited the 6 weeks.
  • me-n-mygirls
    February 27, 2013 at 4:13 PM
    I wanted sex as the Dr was sewing me up with #3....craziest feeling ever!!
    I am a horndog so I want sex over any of those top 25 things!!
    I had sex before every 6 week check-up.
  • mrs.hartman12
    February 27, 2013 at 4:16 PM
    I didn't wait six weeks lol.
  • TheMommaJessie
    February 27, 2013 at 4:21 PM

    6 weeks & i was demanding sex a lot of those i didnt't do before kids lol

  • momma2b2008
    February 27, 2013 at 4:24 PM
    We waited 12 weeks with both. I was in no mood to be having sex.

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