Sigh. Sooooooo, can we just go ahead and put it out there
that having a baby definitely puts a damper on your sex life?
Between being pregnant for nine months, giving birth, and then
trying to adjust to life with a newborn, getting back in the
saddle again and resuming an active sex life usually isn't a huge priority for
And that's why it's not the least bit surprising to hear that most new mothers wait longerthan
six weeks to have sex after their baby arrives. (I said
most moms. Jessica Simpson is an exception.)
Yeah, six weeks may be the guideline that most doctors go by as far as how
long you have to wait to do the dirty after childbirth, but it's definitely way
too soon for plenty of overwhelmed, exhausted,
not-feeling-anything-remotely-close-to-sexy mamas. Or at least I know it was for
I distinctly remember sitting on the table in my OB-GYN's office at my
six-week appointment and her telling me it was ok to have sex again -- to which
I reacted by laughing in her face. (Oh, yes I did.)
Having sex was probably the furthest thing from my mind at that time -- to
the point where I really can't understand how ANY new mom would rate having sex
as being high up on her "to-do" list.
In fact, I can think of 25 things new moms would rather do than have
Go to the bathroom without any interruptions.
Get a massage.
Get her hair done.
Get a manicure and pedicure.
Take 10 minutes to book appointments for numbers 4 through 6.
Watch an episode of The Bachelor, Revenge, Grey's
Anatomy, insert favorite TV show here -- without having to get up off the
couch to tend to the baby.
Take a bath. A lonnnnnggggg, hot bath.
Read a magazine from cover-to-cover.
Read one chapter in a book without falling asleep.
Go to the grocery store alone.
Go to the mall alone.
Go to the movies alone.
Go out to dinner alone.
Go pretty much anywhere alone.
Cook dinner and actually sit down and eat whatever it is she cooked.
Do the dishes/load the dishwasher in the effort of waking up to a clean
Pick up clutter and clean the house so she can desperately hold on to the
small bit of normalcy she has since the baby arrived.
Call her mom, her best friend, or anyone who doesn't mind listening to
incessant crying for no reason.
Take a walk around the neighborhood.
Work out (because losing the baby weight will help bring back her sex
Sit and stare at a blank wall for an hour or two.
Relax on the couch with a couple glasses of wine.
What would you rather do than have sex? And how long did you wait to
have sex again after you had your baby?