My husband likes to be praised for things all of the time when I never get any. At all. Ever. How should I deal with this? I think he is so immature sometimes. I was thinking about making him one of those gold star charts like the ones for kids. Every day that he does something that he feels proud of, I should give him a gold star. What do you think?
In my family, the men make sure their women are happy and taken care of. The woman comes first. On my husband's side of the family, the women make sure the men are taken care of. The man comes first. This is the reason why I feel that MY needs are always put on the back burner. It's tough. And I was only making a joke with the gold star chart. I know better than to try that in reality! He is just always expecting me to be so proud of him for everything but I don't get any recognition. I guess it all goes back to the way he was raised. Why should I get recognition? I am the woman, it is my JOB to take care of the husband, kids, and all of the chores. And to never complain...
I think the chat would be insulting. He probably feels unappreciated and is looking for you to notice him. My husband and I struggled with this too. Neither was giving praise because we both felt unappreciated. Talk to him about it.
Just a little thank you will do. The gold chart will belittle him as pp have said. It will cause a arguement in your marriage. I know it can be frustrating at times. I use to think that my husband never praised me until I noticed his praises are never verbal and if they are they are sort of weird. Such as when I was a sahm he would say "I am so glad I have this place to come home to."