Love & Marriage
This might be a little weird but oh well. I honestly dont think I have ever had an orgasm I try to I really do I try focusing in on it and I try to imagine things such as fantasies but it still doesnt work I have been faking orgasms for about a year and a half now with my husband and the man before him. Not only that but my husband tries to go on forever so that its more intense for him and so he can make me "climax" more than once and it seems to go on forever and by the time its over im just annoyed and when he does something I like he stops and moves on or he climaxs before i get into it. I dont know what to do I feel like somelthing is wrong with me.
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Start by being honest with him and telling him that nothing is happening for you. I remember reading in a magazine when I was a teenager that faking it is bad for you, it's cheating yourself. I vowed to never fake it and I have never had to.
You may need to stimulate yourself during sex.
You need to talk to him, not us.
And you need to not fake it.
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Try playing with yourself in the bath and see if it works. Not sure if you have toys or not. Some people have a hard time climaxing during intercourse.
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I have recently been thinking about going to therapy for that and some other things ive tried explaining to my husband that stuff but he always asks details about what happened and who it was with and i have never told anyone who it was and he knows the person so i just try to limit all of the details.
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Everyone will be happy to know that I did end up talking to him and letting him know I faked it and he didnt get upset as I expected he apoligized that he was being selfish and he said he was going to try harder.
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How about honesty? When your husband is doing something that is right, tell him to continue. The way to look at it is: do you want to have to fake your entire marriage or would you rather have the mutual enjoyment? Honesty, honesty, honesty.
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See your gynacologist hon.
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Maybe u should see a doc for that. Everyone is meant to have an orgasm. -
talk to him about it. When you fake it you are sending him the message that you are being pleased, when you are not. He isn't a mind reader, he needs to know whats going on.
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Agreed
Quoting OHgirlinCA:
Two words... Clitoral stimulation!